Posted on 04/27/2003 12:54:50 PM PDT by ATCNavyRetiree
Tacoma police chief shoots wife, kills himself
By LEWIS KAMB, PHUONG CAT LE, ANGELA GALLOWAY and RUTH TEICHROEB SEATTLE POST-INTELLIGENCER REPORTERS
GIG HARBOR - Tacoma's police chief shot his wife and then himself in the parking lot of a strip mall Saturday afternoon while the couple's two young children were nearby.
David Brame died at St. Joseph's Hospital in Tacoma about 6 p.m. His wife Crystal was in critical condition at Harborview Medical Center in Seattle.
On Friday, the Seattle Post-Intelligencer reported that Crystal Brame, 35, had obtained a temporary restraining order in February against her husband. In subsequent court papers, she had accused him of pointing his service revolver at her and trying to choke her during two separate incidents in the past six months.
The couple were going through a divorce.
Brame, a veteran officer who rose through the ranks to become chief in January 2002, denied those allegations in court papers filed in King County Superior Court last month.
Saturday's shooting happened at about 3:10 p.m., said Pierce County sheriff's spokesman Ed Troyer.
"We don't believe other people are involved," Troyer said. "The victims were the chief of the Tacoma Police Department and his wife. We believe he shot her and then shot himself."
Crystal Brame was in a black Toyota Camry with the couple's two children when David Brame approached the vehicle, authorities said. The two had arranged to meet in the shopping mall parking lot. David Brame took the two children - 8-year-old Haley and 5-year-old David - to his burgundy Toyota Camry, which was parked nearby. He then returned to the car Crystal Brame was in. He got in also and a short time later two shots were fired, authorities said.
NOTE: This story has been updated since it was originally posted.
"The kids were screaming," said Kirsten Oakland, who works in a hair salon at the mall. "Who would have thought? Awful. This affected the entire community in a split second."
An off-duty King County paramedic was the first to arrive on the scene and begin treatment.
"It appeared she (Crystal) managed to open the door and fell down to the ground," Troyer said. "And the paramedic pulled up right next to her in the car."
Neither child was hurt. They were with their mother's parents Saturday night, Troyer said.
George Sharp, a supervisor for the Rite Aid store, said almost nobody in the store actually heard the shooting. Many learned of it from customers and employees coming in for their shifts who had learned about the shooting from news reports.
"A lot of people expressed shock that it did happen in Gig Harbor and the customers and the employees wish that it hadn't happened but they didn't really feel any more threatened as they would if it were a drive-by or it were a random act," Sharp said.
"I think that people are saddened it got to that stage and unhappy that it happened here, and unhappy that it happened at all."
Troyer said one of the Brame children got out of the car and went into a nearby Hollywood Video store. Witnesses took the other child to the store too.
Jesse Hentz, assistant manager of the Hollywood Video, said: "I feel really bad. And I want the family to know that people care about them."
In court papers, Crystal Brame portrayed her husband as controlling and jealous, refusing to let her use their credit card without permission and checking her car's odometer to monitor trips to the grocery store.
She also accused him of leaving his loaded service revolver on a bedroom shelf within reach of their two children.
Her fear increased last November when she alleged that the 44-year-old Brame "choked me and threatened that he could snap my neck if he wanted to." It was the fourth time that year he'd tried to choke her, each time sending flowers later to apologize, she said.
And just before they separated in February, she alleged in court documents that Brame pointed his service revolver at her, "telling me 'accidents happen.' "
She did not report either incident to police.
David Brame had maintained he was the real victim of domestic violence during his 11-year marriage. He said he reported the assaults to police -- first to his boss, then-interim Chief Ken Monner and to an officer who photographed his bruises; then to police in Gig Harbor, where he was living at the time.
Both times David Brame insisted that police not arrest his wife or even investigate his allegations - even though a state law requires officers to arrest anyone accused of domestic violence if the complaint is credible.
He explained his unusual behavior in court documents by saying he wanted to "protect himself" in case his wife ever tried to malign him with false abuse allegations.
Tacoma City Councilman Mike Lonergan, who sits on the council's public safety committee, said he had a hard time believing the shooting had happened.
"We knew David from his professional side. This is a total shock," Lonergan said Saturday. "He presented himself as a very together person, business-like and very likeable. This entire thing is hard to grasp."
Although Lonergan said the usually outgoing Brame had been withdrawn and seemed depressed lately, he had no idea what was going on at home.
"To know David Brame took the action he did today shows that there was a whole lot beneath the surface we couldn't see," Lonergan said.
Ken Bunting, executive editor of the P-I, said "this is a tragic development in lives that, from all accounts, have been troubled for quite some time. These events are not only painful for the family, but for the community and all who have the responsibility to ask the difficult questions about it. Domestic violence is never a comfortable topic."
Paul Pastor, Pierce County sheriff, announced Brame's death from outside St. Joseph's hospital. He said only that Brame had died of a gunshot wound; no other details were given.
"This is terribly sad news for this city and this community," Pastor said.
Carlos Sambrano, a childhood friend of the chief, went to the hospital to support the family. He said he and Brame played baseball at Lincoln High School.
"He never appeared to be a violent person," said Sambrano, who described his friend as a "class act."
Visibly distraught over the news of his friend's death, Sambrano said: "What's this world coming to."
I don't think he's a victim at all --not in any way but I agree there is usually a dynamic that isn't simple to explain. She was a victim ---but not one that got out immediately ---he was the persecuter and the flower-giver. What makes some women put up with abuse for years, anyone who works with these women victims will tell of how even when they are in domestic abuse centers, many leave and go back for more abuse. Maybe it's self-esteem? --they feel they deserve to be punished? Maybe the need to "have a husband" to provide a living? Or the social status of having a husband?
I'm not blaming the court system. The fact that he's a police cheif does not make him immune to the weaknesses of the rest of humanity. He shot his wife in FRONT OF HIS CHILDREN. I can't believe any normal human being, no matter how far they were pushed by their spouse or the court, would subject his children to such horror. Didn't he think of the effect on his kids? Apparently not. That tye of behavior has to make you wonder just how much he cared about his family.
However, the entire system is corrupt. That was why I brought up the restraining order against the chief of police. Who's gonna enforce it?
My nasty divorce was stretched out to five agonizing years by my ex's attorney. I had a restraining order against him, because he was following me around, threatening to shoot me. He used to sit across the road from my house, watching it. Not just him. He, his parents and his best friend took the seige in shifts. Know what the police told me when I finally got tired of avoiding windows? They said there was nothing they could do, because we didn't own the property across the road. What good is a restraining order? They can arrest the violator, but you'll be no less dead for that.
Now imagine such a nightmare of a divorce, but the spouse doing the stalking is the police chief. As I said, who's gonna enforce it?
I don't know the particulars of that poster's life, but I have often found on such topics that the poster has an old, personal axe to grind.
Bizarro.
They do. They're supposed to anyway. My ex was supposed to get rid of his pistols, but never did and wasn't forced to. Corruption.
I'm racking my brain trying to come up with something a woman can do that would justify shooting her to death in a parking lot with her children nearby.
Nope. You can stretch and contort all you like, but blaming the victim here isn't going to cut it. It doesn't matter what she did, she didn't deserve to be murdered in front of her children, and we can't ask the husband what she did, now can we, because the wussy killed himself and orphaned his children.
Only by staying after the first abuse incident. A co-worker was telling me about the sad case of an emotionally abused woman in her family ---the husband criticizes her constantly and in front of others ---usually by insulting her on her weight, calling her fat, stupid, and lazy ---but he doesn't leave her. She cries but eats to comfort herself, she gets fatter and lazier --maybe to punish him back ---but she doesn't leave either. There seems to be no love whatsoever between them ---and when they ask her why she doesn't just leave him, she says she's afraid at her weight, she'd never find another husband.
The reason for the meeting was to exchange kids from a visitation, in a very busy parking lot, not a secluded one, just FYI.
The existing divorce system didn't cause the police chief to abuse, long-term, and then shoot his wife in front of their children. The existing divorce system didn't create the long-standing imbalance in the chief's mind and life that resulted in this horrendous train of events.
It was when she took action to get free from his oppression and threats to her life that he shot her.
Nicole Simpson comes to mind.
Yes because the murder did not need to happen, it certainly did not need to happen in front of those poor kids.
Well said. Not all chiefs of police are like that, but there are far too many of them out there.
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