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Yes, but it took me almost 20 years to finally figure it out. LOL Now, I'm 53, but I'll tell you what, I'm not falling for this crap anymore, and if my mother wants to blame me and my girls, so be it. We already have ulcers from the stress. And you're right about the guilt. Sometimes, I cry for days and wonder what did "I" do? But, I snap out of it. It really is hard. But honestly, I'm more relaxed with them out of my life now, than if I still had to put up with it. My poor husband, though, he's such a naive person, that he gave my brother a job in our business, "3 TIMES!" and was ripped off for double digit thousands. Hubby is dumber than I am. LOL

About family troubles...there comes a time when you have to protect yourself and those dear to you, and break the chains that bind you to unhealthy relationships. I've done it myself.

Blessings to you both.

Hubby is dumber than I am. LOL Actually he was probably trying to please you in some twisted way. Sort of joining the fish.... My husband had similar with my father always helping him etc. and then it got more and more personal and delusional on my fathers part. All is resolved now however I sometimes wonder and the days get better and the memories turn to all good. We always tend to forget the bad bad things... My husband ran into my dad on train the other day. A man my husband was going to "kill" on sight for the last two years. The talked laughed etc. It was nice to hear how my husband was able to forgive in that one moment on a subway....LOL...he said my Dad looked good etc... Weird but I am doing better. Husband is better. My kids are better. I guess hope is always there.