[HELLRAISER II]

It was a different time then & if you look at my previous posts I said abstinence was what I suggested to my kids, I of course omitted my romps in High School & College. Let me ask you this, if your child came to you & said Mom/Dad i'm going to have sex and I can either use a condom or not use a condom. Now assuming that they're going to have sex regardless, would you tell them A) Use a condom or B) Don't use a condom? I think that the answer is obvious, it's not the best answer but it's the better choice of the two.

[AppyPappy]

said Mom/Dad i'm going to have sex and I can either use a condom or not use a condom.

The same thing I would tell them if they told me they were going to jump off the garage with or without an umbrella; Don't Do It.

[aruanan]

Let me ask you this, if your child came to you & said Mom/Dad i'm going to have sex and I can either use a condom or not use a condom. Now assuming that they're going to have sex regardless, would you tell them A) Use a condom or B) Don't use a condom? I think that the answer is obvious, it's not the best answer but it's the better choice of the two.

Both you and the kid have posed a false dilemma. On the one hand, if my kid trusted me enough to tell me he was going to have sex, the likelihood is that he has been paying close attention to what I have had to say and to my attitudes on the subject over the years. On the other hand, if my kid were stupid enough to pose a false dilemma, he'd also be stupid enough to go ahead and do whatever it is he wanted to do.

On the third hand (the Zaphod Beeblebrox one, grown just for you), that a kid would come to his parent with such a request gives a pretty clear indication of the kind of messages about sex outside of marriage the parent has been sending to his kid over the years: 1. that it's okay, 2. that the parent hasn't given the kid enough information to know that a. a condom offers only some degree of protection against only some sexually transmitted diseases, b. that the dangers of premarital/promiscuous sex aren't limited to STDs, and c. that he'd be far better off to just say no.