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Let me ask you this, if your child came to you & said Mom/Dad i'm going to have sex and I can either use a condom or not use a condom. Now assuming that they're going to have sex regardless, would you tell them A) Use a condom or B) Don't use a condom? I think that the answer is obvious, it's not the best answer but it's the better choice of the two.

Both you and the kid have posed a false dilemma. On the one hand, if my kid trusted me enough to tell me he was going to have sex, the likelihood is that he has been paying close attention to what I have had to say and to my attitudes on the subject over the years. On the other hand, if my kid were stupid enough to pose a false dilemma, he'd also be stupid enough to go ahead and do whatever it is he wanted to do.

On the third hand (the Zaphod Beeblebrox one, grown just for you), that a kid would come to his parent with such a request gives a pretty clear indication of the kind of messages about sex outside of marriage the parent has been sending to his kid over the years: 1. that it's okay, 2. that the parent hasn't given the kid enough information to know that a. a condom offers only some degree of protection against only some sexually transmitted diseases, b. that the dangers of premarital/promiscuous sex aren't limited to STDs, and c. that he'd be far better off to just say no.

I don't think that you fully understand my position, listen closely. I have taught my kids that premarital sex is a no-no. But what you don't seem to grasp is that the Zaphod Beeblebrox kid (whatever the hell that's suppose to mean) is the majority of kids nowaday's. Some people can live in a fantasy land and think that their kid is never going to have pre marital sex, but I'm a realist and the possibility is alway's there. I have never, not even one time have I encouraged or insinuated in anyway that it was alright for either of my children to have premarital sex. But like I said, if they decide to I would prefer that they used a good mainbrand condom in the event that it happens. Again some of you may live in the past where Pre-marital sex doesn't happen, but in the 21st century it happens more often then not.