Posted on 12/05/2001 7:22:16 AM PST by Starmaker
A feminine woman has the effect of a sunrise on a man's soul.
In the words of novelist Alex Waugh, she draws a man "into a magic circle where everything is fresher, cleaner; where there is peace, warmth, comfort. She produces in him the desire to be his best."
Nothing on earth is so fine. On this continent, increasingly nothing is so rare.
The Official State Gender Ideology, feminism, has decreed that femininity is a "stereotype" invented by men to oppress women.
Feminism is no longer about equal opportunity for women. It is a thuggish, devious synthesis of Marxism and lesbianism used by ruling elites to undermine individuals and weaken society. It is to society what AIDS is to the body.
But men are also to blame. We have accepted the feminist lie that women should be independent and pursue careers. We have abandoned the many gentle and loving women who instinctively want to build their lives around a man. We have pursued the busy, neurotic, overachievers who guarantee us heartbreak, divorce and broken family.
By pursuing these women, we are really seeking our own lost masculinity. Many of us are happy to evade the responsibility of earning a living, and taking charge of a family. In either case we are condemning ourselves to frustration and arrested development.
For heterosexuals to find fulfillment, each sex must assume its instinctive part. The sex act is a metaphor: The man's spirit pervades the female and they become one. The male spirit must be active and the female receptive.
Many men ignore willing, feminine women who can provide Wholeness. These women cannot thrive, we cannot thrive, unless we recognize, defend and love them.
What is a feminine woman?
1) A feminine woman is motivated by love of husband and children. She is the heart of the family, devoted to her husband and children's wellbeing. This is her career. A woman who is preoccupied with another demanding career cannot pay attention to her family. Love is mainly paying attention. There is a New Yorker cartoon where a child is wearing a welder's mask and using a blowtorch to write, "I need love" on the living room wall. His mother says to her friend: "He's just doing that to get attention."
A feminine woman may have another career but it is her second priority. She is not driven by personal ambition. I liked the movie Legally Blonde because the heroine showed that she could excel in the work world but why bother? She had a more important goal: a husband and family.
Career is a feminist lie. Since when are careers the source of human fulfillment? What is so great about being an Assistant Loan Manager at a bank? Is society expected to provide successive legions of eager feminists with "fulfilling" careers to compensate for their loveless lives?
2) Feminists are teaching women to be "strong and independent." This is not feminine. Men respond to a woman's need. We want to rescue the damsel in distress and to win her favors. This archetype is also innate in women. She wants to be enlisted by a man.
A feminine woman DEPENDS on a man. This doesn't mean she is an emotional waif. She is competent but she doesn't pretend to be independent. Men and women need each other to be whole. As long as I have my wife, I am self-sufficient. So is she.
3) Just as the woman is the heart of the family, the man is the head and shoulders. A feminine woman is her husband's partner. They make decisions together but he has the last word. Men must be the visionaries, the navigators, and the captains. A woman's most important decision is the man she chooses to love.
4) A feminine woman is reserved. She wants a man to pay attention to "her" so she doesn't flaunt her sexuality. A woman wants to be loved more than anything in the world. She wants to be "known" in all her divinity. This happens when she is truly loved. Is it a coincidence the Bible uses the word "know" as in Abraham "knew" Sarah, to speak of sexual intercourse? All women are beautiful when they are loved.
Women's liberation has taught women to pursue sex for its own sake, as though they were men. This is not feminine. If a man prefers a new car, why would he marry a "used" woman? He doesn't want a car that's been driven by a lot of men. He doesn't know where it's been, what damage has been done. He will choose a brand new car. In my wife's words: "A man wants to be a woman's first lover; a woman wants to be his last."
I'm not saying all women should save their virginity until marriage but certainly sex should be reserved for honest, loving relationships. Men need to stop looking for sex and start looking for the right woman. That's the only guarantee of sex anyway.
If men chose wives with the same attention as cars, more marriages would succeed. Women are the vehicles to the future, in terms of emotional fulfillment and family. If men knew where they wanted to go, they would choose women who would get them there. They would not be blinded by sex.
5) A feminine woman tries to please the man she loves. No, this has not been outlawed, it just seems that way. A feminine woman generates love by giving love. She empowers her man by believing in him. Love is expressed in actions and effort. Baking a pie is an act of love. So is making the home beautiful. Are we so blind, impoverished and demoralized that we cannot appreciate this? Why have we allowed feminists to stigmatize homemaking? Women would be more than happy to be homemakers if it received the recognition and appreciation that it deserves.
A feminine woman has grace, beauty and wisdom. These all come from staying in touch with her spirit and not pursuing an exhausting career that requires masculine qualities.
On the "Oprah" Show, I saw three young women interviewed about the "quarter-life" crisis. They were having trouble getting their careers on track and because of their families' expectations they were falling apart.
Oprah urged these girls to "follow their instincts." No one mentioned that for women in their early twenties, "following their instincts" might entail having a baby. No one is following their instincts any more. They are doing what feminists tell them to do.
It's time men started listening to their instincts too. We want to be the masters of our domain. We want to love and possess ("pay attention," "know") our wives. We want to create families that are loving, lively and happy. It's time we embraced the quiet, unassuming beautiful women who want to be our soul mates.
The true measure of femininity is what a woman will do for those in her care (most typically her children and, to a lesser extent, her husband). By the sound of it, your mother was willing to go through an awful lot of work for your benefit; that sure makes her sound like a lady to me.
My problem is only with the men who seem to have no sense of where and when such fun is appropriate and where is may not be, and maybe with the men who don't/won't teach them the difference.
I wouldn't sugar coat anything for you Bubba!
Now this ``unfeminine, doesn't know her place, free thinking harlot''</sarcasm off> is taking her carcase to bed!
Some of us DO have to go to work in the morning!
Biblically, fornication was acceptable if the people in question got married; the girl's father would have the authority to make sure that that they did so.
Of course, fornicating with anyone one didn't want to marry would be pretty stupid, but that doesn't make fornication sinful unless one is unwilling to accept the consequences.
What do you do and why?
Fair enough.
I would approach him, (hopefully with some other men, but alone if necessary) smiling slightly, and ask him if he would please put the magazine away, as it's not appropriate here (in mixed company) and his showing it and making audible comments is making people uncomfortable, something that I would say I'm sure he doesn't want to do. If I needed to push the issue, I would ask him why he feels the need to be 'reading' Playboy, now. I might also mention that most men stop reading Playboy at about 15.
This approach assumes a reasonable level of decorum, no drunkenness on the man's part and a cordial atmosphere.
I would do this because magazines such as Playboy are an embarrassment to decent men that respect women. Playboy attempts to portray women as sexual objects and 'legitmize' pornography. This benefits neither sex. When a man starts waving around a copy of Playboy and makes lewd comments, he demeans himself and any women present and should be taken to task for his lack of respect as well as his crudeness. Personally, I would be annoyed at the utter lack of sense of someone that would do this, and keeping my temper would be an effort.
Can you please share this beautiful message with all those poor females who have bought the feminist lie??
It is very good. … … (:
I do try, although I must say that most of the women I spend much time around believe the same way. I really don't believe that the majority of women "buy" the feminist argument any more than I believe that the majority of people think homosexuality is normal. Its just that those who are "selling" it have such big mouths that they are able to make people think that that is what the majority believe.
So what is the answer? Well, home school and private schools come to mind. Boys and girls are not going to learn "virtues" of any kind in public schools, such as they are. I also think we have to refuse to cave in anymore when our rights are trampled by these militant malcontents and stand strong in what we believe that we might be a shining example to others.
Like this is an area a man wouldn't have some insight on?
Tell you what...
Anytime a lady (right, left, or center) wants to make a point about masculinity, I'm eager to listen thoughtfully. BTW, I enjoyed your article on Chivalry very much. Thanks.
Too bad I wasn't FReeping when Titanic came out. Women and children first would have been a fun thread.
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