Posted on 12/13/2023 6:14:15 AM PST by Rummyfan
A woman said she felt “betrayed by feminism” after deciding she wanted to settle down, have a family and a husband as she approached 39th birthday. At one point during the interview with Fox News Digital, she broke down crying describing how she feared she would end up alone and childless.
Melissa Persling recently wrote an essay for Business Insider titled, “I’m 38 and single, and I recently realized I want a child. I’m terrified I’ve missed my opportunity.” She said after it went viral in November, hate began to pour in from men telling her that she’s lived a selfish life. Persling has a much different account of her story.
When Persling was 22, she married a traditional man and moved to a rural community in Coeur d’Alene, Idaho, where she grew up.
“He wanted a simple life with children and home-cooked meals,” she said. However, Persling – despite coming from a religious Christian background – made it clear to her husband-to-be that she did not want children.
“At that time I felt very strongly I did not want children, that I wasn’t going to be like the traditional housewife. I knew I did want to pursue a career,” she told Fox News Digital in an interview. “And I felt very strongly that that would never change. And I guess I was wrong.”
Persling said both her and her ex thought that love could conquer everything, but after 10 years, it was clear their differences in life goals were irreconcilable. Persling said she became resentful when he would ask for dinner or for his laundry to be done.
“I did little to hide my disdain for our small-town life. He was a good and hardworking man, but I don’t think I made him feel that way,” she said.
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LOL
Perfect.
What do we know about his work hours, her work hours? A team works together. Cohabiters stand on prerogatives.
I don’t feel sorry for her.
She was an adult and CHOSE to follow that path. Blame shifting does not and cannot absolver her of that responsibility for her own actions.
Tick tock tick tock
How many times did we hear that life only gives you one shot so you had better get it right? When lecturing my children about it, I say it’s like crossing a busy street; do it wrong once, and it’s game over. Fair or not.
Woohoo!!
It is a biological fact that the female of the species has a expiration date as regards sexuality and sexual attractiveness.
But when women are young and attractive they assume they will always be such. It is a fallacy of youth, but it carries a heavier price for the female sex.
I still haven’t found the “best by” date.
Unfortunately, she isn’t the only one with feminist regret. Good luck trying to find a 40-ish male looking to marry a 40 y/o woman who wants kids.
Societally, honestly women if they are truly interested in a family... should marry and have children in their early to mid 20s and then start their careers later.
I know that’s not what society tells them (Femists anyway)...
But its true.
Now 38 isn’t impossible to wed and have children, but you definitely are up against a hard clock. If that is what you want, you have to make it a priority prior to your mid 30s.
If you decide at 35, NOW, finally I want to seriously look for a husband and start a family, you are definitely going to have a lower odds of success. NO, it doesn’t mean you won’t be successful, but you definitely have put yourself in a time crunch.
Assume you want to date for 1-2 years before you become engaged... that means you only really have a few opportunities to find the fight guy before your biological odds of having children start to drastically reduce.
Now, people do have perfectly normal and healthy children in their early 40s... My youngest was born when my wife was 43, just about to turn 44, and is perfectly healthy and happy.. but the odds are indeed declining with each passing month at that age.
If your goal is to be a mother, I would certainly suggest that women stop putting career ahead of motherhood... There will ALWAYS be time to get a job and work a career... that option never goes away.. but your ability to have children does.
Of course today younger women, a huge segment of them anyway, are utterly detached from reality and think they are going to get the .00001% man even though they are nowhere in the arena to have a shot at one, I really don’t know how young men today deal.
I can’t even hold a casual conversation with most women under the age or 30... so many of them are just mentally deranged. They truly are clueless about the world they live in... I’m not talking political differences of opinion, or they are crazy in all women can be crazy, I mean they are literally utterly and completely detached from any sense of reality.
Selfish, self absorbed ingrates... (Yes we were all young once, and self absorbed, but this is a whole other level) many many many of them, are not worth the time of day.
And.... her biological looks and metabolism. Not a good look, mentally or otherwise. Running late, in intelligence and all else. Definition of anti-feminine, who fought their biology when they couldn’t become a tranny. But now she can— an old, sterile she/he. Biblical.
Tom Petty wrote many songs about the human experience. That was one of them.
If you are going to be married, learn how to cook a meal, learn how to make a bed, learn how to wash dishes, and learn how to do a load of laundry and fold.
You’re probably correct
She broke down crying describing how she feared she would end up alone and childless.
When all else fails follow first rule think for yourself.
Some people think for themselves others let other people think for them.
In all probability a good percentage of the others are brainwashed to let other people think for them.
I witness this just about every day.
She has a little bit of time, but not a lot. My grandma was 41 when my mom was born (6th child), and my aunt was 43 when my cousin was born (3rd child). Neither had any genetic problems, and this was well before IVF.
This woman can still have children if she can find the right guy. I will say a prayer for her.
I refused to take my college girlfriend back for (likely) such reasons.
I wish her luck in finding someone to love and to have a baby.
I had a life-long friend who recently died at age 73 who was fat his whole life. And I mean fat, like 400+ lbs. fat. But he found a wife when they were both in their mid-forties. She’s normal sized, say 140 lbs., but she absolutely adored him because she could see who he really was through his fat, so I wish the woman luck.
“Now....don’t be talking to me about cleaning.....at least in general....”
When I was in the military I learned how to spit shine decks - buff, wash, wax, strip you name it that deck looked pretty darn glossy when we were done with it. I got out of the military and I’ve had wall-to-wall carpeting ever since...
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