Posted on 01/21/2022 2:47:50 AM PST by Kaslin
In these times of vitriol, when you either take a stand for what is right or become one of the sheep, invariably you are going to lose “friends.” But maybe they weren’t really friends to start with.
Certainly, President Trump doesn’t worry about lost friendships when he challenges Uni-Party idiocy. Nor do the MAGA Republicans that have kept their spine after entering Congress. Patriotic Americans who believe in Judeo-Christian values can’t worry about hurt feelings when pushing back at insane totalitarian groupthink.
Oh, but isn’t this contrary to what world renown Dale Carnegie preached when in 1936 he wrote his still best-seller How to Win Friends and Influence People? Written during the Depression, the book remains in print today. From a 1937 New York Times review:
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… this authority on “public speaking and human relationships” tells us to smile and be friendly, not to argue or find fault, to get the other person’s point of view, encourage and praise him, let him talk all he wants to and persuade him that all the good ideas are his.
He advises us also never to tell another person that he is wrong but adds that if we are wrong ourselves we can turn a liability into an asset by admitting it “quickly and emphatically.”
If we do all that, we are pretty sure to win friends. And if in addition, we have the wit to dramatize our own ideas, our salesmanship will profit the more.
Sorry, but the real world IS NOT some Mr. Rogers neighborhood. Dale Carnegie techniques don’t work on evil people who are our adversaries.
Ingratiating yourself to win business is one thing. It worked well in feudal societies too.
But you can’t compromise with tyranny and keep a supposedly free country at the same time.
I don’t have any friends so no problem.
You are right however about the Dale Carnegie techniques not working on evil people who are steeped in Alinsky "bullying" tactics.
“He advises us also never to tell another person that he is wrong”
“Adolph, I would never say you are wrong with that Final Solution thing and risk losing you as a friend. How about a suggestion which you can feel good about as if it was your idea? How about putting snack trays in the tranport trains to the camps?”
“and persuade him that all the good ideas are his.”
IOW, how to become a manipulative control freak.
It’s a good thing to oppose evil and to make a stand, even if it makes people angry with you.
Of course, it also helps if you are visibly well-armed while doing it.
“I don’t have any friends so no problem.”
Does this mean we’re not friends anymore? If I thought you weren’t my friend... I just don’t think I could bear it!
You’ll get over it.
A soft word turneth away wrath.
Just telling someone he is wrong will rarely result in him examining his assumptions. But getting in sufficient rapport with him may result in him looking at your data.
If someone doesn’t care if they are right or wrong, maybe you shouldn’t be wasting your time trying to convince them of anything. A fools errand.
I don’t think Dale Carnegie was referring to people that want you rounded up and in camps.
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