Posted on 02/28/2020 2:59:01 AM PST by grundle
For weeks, 11-year-old Azlyn Hobson buzzed with excitement for the Valentine’s Day dance at her Utah middle school.
Two previous dances at the Laketown, Utah, school had been loads of fun, and this time she had a crush on a boy at school she hoped to dance with. On the morning of the big event, she layered a red-and-pink floral sundress over a long-sleeve T-shirt and leggings, and carefully arranged her hair.
But Azlyn’s enthusiasm waned when a different boy, who made her feel uncomfortable, asked her to share a slow dance.
“She was so excited in the morning when she left,” the girl’s mother, Alicia Hobson, told The Washington Post. “I asked if she got to dance with the boy she liked, and she did and she was happy. But in the same breath she was exasperated because she had to dance with the boy she hates.”
Azlyn tried to politely decline the invitation, but the school’s principal rushed over and told her saying “no” was against school rules.
“I just didn’t like it at all,” Azlyn told local TV station KSTU. “When they finally said it was done, I was like, ‘Yes!’ ”
After Hobson recently posted about her daughter’s experience on Facebook, a passionate discussion about the tension between honoring kids’ autonomy and encouraging kindness unfolded. The unwanted dance surfaced concerns about rape culture, teaching children to appropriately handle rejection and respecting boundaries students set for themselves, Hobson said. She raised those issues with Rich Middle School principal Kip Motta.
“Girls HAVE to learn that they have the right to say no and that those around them have to respect that. I’m not going to quietly stand by while my daughter and all of her classmates are being wrapped up in rape culture. No way.”
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By golly, if everyone was a Babtist there wouldn’t be this “dancing” problem!
I guess “no means no” unless you are a little girl and then you have to accept every advance made by anyone (and accept boys in the girls showers, and boys in girls sports)
Liberals are insane
Choice.
If “no” is not an option, why even bother asking? just take it!
Society is insane, but society is now largely run by liberals.
Traditionally women who tended to say no in an unreasonable fashion tended to end up, to use a politically incorrect term, labelled spinsters.
The rest of this post, including a part about women who said yes in an unreasonable fashion, which I believe too hot to handle, (hotter than a two-dollar pistol), and about men generally being happier and women probably no more unhappy than they are now (which may merely be the rantings of a man who believes he is suffering at the hands of his estranged wife and misses his children terribly) has been deleted in a rare act of self-censorship.
She needs to be able to turn down any boy she cares to. That’s how we get Nuclear Physicists and politicians. You never wondered why they were all so homely?
When I was eleven I thought girls had cooties!
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That’s the way when I was growing up. It was impolite to turn down a young man who got up the courage to ask to to dance. It was just a dance. Of coarse we were also taught to say no if an unwanted advance happened, to slap a face or bring up a knee if the didn’t stop.
My first experience with “natural selection.” I learned early that ugly girls were more fun.
Sounds like the way I was brought up, as well. Now, the girls are taught to be immodest and act like tramps.
And what in the heck is going on with 11-year-olds slow-dancing? And it sounds like the mother is encouraging this “romancing”.
“And what in the heck is going on with 11-year-olds slow-dancing?”
Made me think:
Back in the day I went to a public school in the Bronx. They were known as ‘P.S’ . I went to a dance with a girl who went to a Catholic high school.The dance was at her school. While slow dancing a Nun with a ruler, would place it between us and say “Leave some room for the Holy Ghost.”. LOL
Middle school should shut the f up, boy am I glad my kid are grown
my mother, who would be 103 if she was alive, said this about her youth. You had to accept any offer of dancing with anyone, even if you did not want to.
How times have changed! /s
While slow dancing a Nun with a ruler, would place it between us and say
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‘Nun with a ruler’ brings back memories.
Efficient tool for instant control, a good rap on the knuckles gets one attention (and keeps it), a not so gentle tug on the ear is really an attention getter.
Between the nuns-who were able to cross a classroom in a nano second and prepared for most ANYTHING when arriving at their ‘destination- and their (not so) gentle ways, throw in ‘Allan Funt’ (Smile-You’re on Candid Camera) and ‘WE’ grew up wondering who was lurking around us.
To this day, with lessons learned in the 40s/50s I do take a peek around to see who may be ‘watching’ when attempting to do most ‘anything’. HA HA
Sigh.
I remember a dance in 6th grade. "Slow dancing" involved holding hands with one hand, resting the other hand on the partner's shoulder, and a left-right-left-right sidestep move.
We also did the Virginia Reel.
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Also, with the forced ‘Dreamers’ that has been thrust on our schools you often have ‘kids’ (say 19 & 20) in HS among the 14-15-16 year olds.....one would surely ‘discipline’ ones children were they ‘hanging with 20 yos’ while our great school system is ‘forcing’ them to intermingle in the name of DACA and other such bunkem.
Another reason why school boards should have a MAJORITY of people with kids in the schools as members.
People with no ‘dog in the hunt’ tend to push for stuff not in the best interest of others, be it intentional or not.
If the school board were ‘loaded’ with (caring) parents, you probably wouldn’t find so many ‘multi sex’ bathrooms in middle and high school.
Don’t get me wrong, I do admit that while I had kids in school, I had absolutely no interest in the school board (with ME on it) as I had ‘work’ and other things to do.
Then again, when I was coming up you hardly ever saw parents at our sporting events, guess ‘organized athletics’ was another ‘baby sitter’, much the same as the Saturday Afternoon serials etc at the local theater.
Can you imagine today allowing your ‘children’ to walk half a mile to a bus stop, taking the bus to ‘town’ some 10 miles away, spend the day at the movie then reverse the trip home?
Growing up did that on a weekly basis, with maybe a 13 or 14 year old in charge of a few ‘younger ones’.
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