Women want to talk about their problems incessantly, in excruciatingly painstaking detail.
Men want to fix the problem and move on.
When women talk about their problems, they’re looking for someone to commiserate and sympathize with. They’re not interested in how you think they should fix it, ie, man ‘splaining.
Yep. Learned that early on with Mrs WBill. I'm lucky, in that she saves most of the drama for her female friends. Don't tell me there's an enormous problem that's making you miserable, without expecting me to do something about it.
Her: "(Female Friend) is really upset with her best friend. She (said/did) (this and that) and the two of them really had it out. They're not talking anymore."
Me: "Hunh. Probably a good thing. Sounds like the best friend is pretty toxic...."
Her: "No, it's TERRIBLE!!!! They've been friends for decades, and it's foolish to ruin a friendship over something so trivial."
Me: "Hunh. Well, they should get together and talk it out." (I thought that was pretty good insight)
Her: "NO!!! They can't do THAT! There will be a fight, and she'll (say/do something awful) and the other will (say/do something awful) and that will be awful!"
Me: "Well, then it's just as well they stay apart."
Her: "NO! It's TERRIBLE!! They've been friends for decades and"......
and so the circular argument goes.
Men are not women’s emotional tampons.
“When women talk about their problems, they’re looking for someone to commiserate and sympathize with. They’re not interested in how you think they should fix it, ie, man ‘splaining.”
That’s because women talk about problems, and men solve them.