Posted on 11/19/2018 3:22:39 PM PST by yesthatjallen
Shortly after moving back onto campus in August, Emily Scheck saw that she had several text messages from her mom. The sophomore, a cross-country runner for Canisius College in Buffalo, New York, looked down in horror. She was getting disavowed by her mother for being a lesbian.
Her mother had found photos on social media of Scheck with the woman she is dating and was apoplectic. Scheck had not come out to her parents, as she feared they wouldn't accept her sexual preference, according to the Griffin, the Canisius student newspaper. As first reported by the LGBT sports website Outsports, Scheck allegedly was faced with an ultimatum from her family: leave school, give up her partial scholarship and return home to Webster, New York, to go through therapy for her sexual orientation, or she would be cut out of their lives for good.
When she indicated to her parents that she was staying at Canisius and had no interest in therapy, her father drove 85 miles to drop off her belongings, from clothing and stuffed animals to trophies and even her birth certificate. He reportedly dumped her things in her car and removed the license plates. The family had already removed her from their car insurance plan, according to Outsports.
"Well, I am done with you," Scheck's mom texted her daughter, the Buffalo News reported. "As of right now, declare yourself independent. You are on your own. Please don't contact us or your siblings."
Scheck needed to know: Why was this happening to her?
"Because you disgust me," her mother allegedly replied.
With only $20 to her name, Scheck was desperate, working two part-time jobs while attending class and cross-country practice.
"I never would have guessed in a million years that this was something that was going to happen to me," she told the News. "My roommates, they started crying. Me too."
When a roommate launched a GoFundMe campaign this month to raise money for Scheck to eat, live and buy books for the semester, the fundraiser generated tens of thousands of dollars in days. As of early Monday, the campaign, which had an original goal of $5,000, had raised more than $58,000 since Nov. 7.
But the 19-year-old faced with another ultimatum last week, this time from the NCAA: Give back the online donations, or keep the money and lose her eligibility for college athletics. She felt she had no choice but to give up her eligibility
On Friday, the NCAA, which has long fought active student-athletes receiving any outside financial contributions, made a rare reversal: Scheck could not only keep the donations but maintain her eligibility.
The weeks that followed her family's actions were rough. Unable to buy books, she had to borrow them from friends to study. It was hard to find a place to park her car without getting towed. And figuring out how she'd eat was a daily struggle.
"I couldn't even get groceries, initially," she told the News. "I was just really relying on my roommates and my girlfriend."
She told her coaches of the situation, Outsports reported, but months went by without a firm plan for how she would find housing and money for food. That's when Fayetteville-Manlius High School graduate Grace Hausladen, a roommate and teammate, launched a GoFundMe campaign in hope of getting financial support for her friend. Hausladen knew there was some recent precedent for successful campaigns based on college athletes in difficult life situations. She pointed to the head injury suffered by Tennessee State football player Christion Abercrombie in September, and the NCAA later approving one of the GoFundMe accounts set up for his medical fees, the Griffin reported.
"She was kicked out of her home for being herself," Hausladen wrote. "No one deserves to have their home and siblings taken away from them for being their true selves. Though she has made a new home in Buffalo through her teammates and her girlfriend, Justyna, we can no longer stand by and do nothing." She added: "This should not be happening in today's society. Help her feel accepted. Help her feel like herself."
Almost instantly, the campaign was a viral hit and initial fundraising totaled $25,000, more than enough to get her through the fall semester.
The campaign's success got the attention of the NCAA and Canisius, which led to the choice of either giving back the money or losing her eligibility. It was a choice also given to Hausladen. By last week, Scheck's story had been shared across social media, with people both encouraging her to remain positive and pressuring the NCAA and school to rule in her favor. The public support apparently paid off.
"Canisius and the NCAA will continue to work together in support of Emily," the university said in a statement. "She is a member of the Canisius family and we will to do whatever we can to assist her."
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Yup. Who cares? This LGBQYWXYZ thing has become an obsession with the .0002% of the population jamming this crap down our throats.
Well said.
I am a lesbian (in a man’s body) too if they will go fund me $58,000.
Don’t care
I wonder how true this is.
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Same here. Assuming it is true, many questions come to mind. Among them:
She claims to be shocked by her family’s reaction, yet her family found out indirectly about her life style. Why didn’t she tell them herself?
How does being disowned by her family make it difficult to find a parking place without getting a ticket? That one is truly idiotic.
Bingo!
Haven’t heard the families side.
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And I seriously doubt we will.
Her parents did the right thing.
I’d bet this is a fake story. Give it a few days, maybe weeks. It’ll turn out to be a hoax.
You have to wonder in spite of everything else, why she posted something about her choice when she was intentionally keeping it from her parents? Kind of stupid! Will she come out of college any smarter/wiser? Doubtful in today’s college atmospheres...I’m sure none of us can say how we would handle a situation like this but no doubt, she will survive and she can live her life as she wishes with no one to turn to in her family - her choice! Isn’t life all about choices? Or so I hear.. Her parents could have a change of heart, who knows?
I told my daughter when she was younger, no one is smart until about age 25...when she reached 25, she asked if I was extending that to 35 and I said yes...she’ll soon be 45. She has a son who will have his 10th birthday 4 days before she turns 45 so I guess she knows what’s coming...
Something else that was said when she was younger, quite indignantly, “After all, I am 15, Mother” and when the scoldings came that turned to “I’m ONLY 15, Mother.” Boy, I think women should have their children starting at 12 so they can keep up with them.
I guess the parking places/tickets would be because her dad took the license plates off the car - BUT - even better, how is she driving without plates? I think NY has both front and back plates - not sure. I would suspect that her parents bought the car so why didn’t they take it or did she make payments?
Have no idea why she posted anything on social media that she didn’t want her parents to know. Just posted my thoughts on the stupidity of such an act. Like I said, they aren’t even smart until age 25...and then it’s open to question.
it is an aggregation of tax exempt gifts from individuals as long as any one gift does not go above the upper end limit.
bet there have been issues with her and her parents for some time...
remember that nice poor vet and the nice people that set up a go fund me page....ALL FAKE....
SO is she the one on the left or the right? Also, I’m guessing she is a LUG.
We have no idea if her story is true.
There are consequences.
Emily is on the right.
I believe she’s standing next to her “significant other”.
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