[Cronos]

Society is really decaying. I think I probably bought a beer for a woman about twice, but in both cases the explicit idea was a conversation - may be it would turn into a date in the future, but I made it very clear that to a Catholic like me, sleeping around before marriage was not something I would do.

I think it makes it easier for everyone - why not just relax in a person's company. Everything doesn't have to be about sex.

I think this is a real decay in society's morals

[thoughtomator]

Is this woman completely clueless as to why a man would give something to an unknown woman for free?

Or was she happy to be a sexual object only when it comes to getting free stuff, but not when it comes to reciprocation?

[RegulatorCountry]

This woman’s recollections must be at least 40 years old. I recall, in my club-going days, that young attractive women would waltz in, flit from older guy to older guy, asking them to buy them a drink, then blowing them off, never paying for a drink the entire night. As the years passed, it eventually happened to me. Having witnessed this behavior for so long, my response was “well, no, I’m not buying you a drink, I don’t know you and besides you’re really not all that cute.” If looks could kill, but it was so worth it.

[Arm_Bears]

So—Roaring women lose their independence, competence, voice, ability, etc. the moment they let a guy buy them a beer?

[Bruce Campbells Chin]

Stupid article.

It's not a contract for sex - it is a statement of interest by the guy. Guy buys a girl a drink, he's saying "I'm interested in you, and want to take the next 15 or so minutes to see if the interest is mutual." If the girl accepts, she doesn't owe him sex. She's telling him "take your best shot, and I'll see if I'm interested."

Now, a lot of women won't do even that -- they'll take a beer and casually lead on a guy just to get free drinks for a night. It's kind of a crappy thing for a woman to do, but it also is the guy's fault for being dumb enough to keep buying her drinks.

[PapaBear3625]

Or perhaps she should stay out of pool halls.

I agree that a man providing a woman with a beer should not be seen as putting her under an obligation to have sex with him.

A woman providing a man with sex, similarly should not be seen by her as putting him under any obligation to provide her with a ring at any point, or any other form of future commitment. She should see it as just an opportunity to have a pleasant time in his bed.

[Mr. Jeeves]

When I finally got up to leave, he didn’t ask for my number.

See? When you don't escalate she gets even more angry. :)

[Born to Conserve]

Crazy woman alert.

[relictele]

Only prostitutes think in ‘transactional’ terms.

As the old joke goes, we know what the writer is, we’re just negotiating price.

[HangnJudge]

This is going to be a Very interesting thread

[Pollster1]

I was oblivious to the transaction taking place: by drinking his beer, I was entering into an implicit and unwritten contract in which I was expected to fulfill a sexual obligation.

There is an unwritten contract, but that is not what I thought it said. Going back many decades to when I was single: by accepting a drink, the woman who accepted was entering into an implicit contract to engage in social conversation, with at least some potential for a date. Even a full date does not carry an obligation to have sex, or even a goodnight kiss. Any man who demands more is a pig.

[Beagle8U]

This article is BS. Women don’t expect to put out if you buy them a beer.

Now, if you buy them a burger and fries? Yeah, she’ll be giving up the gooch.

[FrankR]

If I have to *buy* something for a woman to get her to like me - sex, or not - then the whole underpinning of any “relationship” is tainted from the beginning.

I played in bands, in bars, for years...and watching the crown from the bandstand/stage, can teach you an awful lot.

It’s an age-old game, but perverts who think the price of a drink is worth a roll in the hay, aren’t the brightest blades in the drawer to begin with.

Most of these women are just hustling free drinks...that’s all. They know by flaunting natures charms they can go out and party all night long, and never spend a nickel. These were once referred to as “golddiggers”.

[Mariner]

I read the meandering article and the woman didn’t make a single point.

Not one.

How is it possible to write 1500 words an not make a point?

[Drango]

Can I buy a woman a glass of wine?

[MarkL]

I’ll come right out and say it. Unless this was an explicit “hook-up” bar, and no, I’m NOT talking about a “singles bar,” I’ll say that the writer is lying.

I’m sure that there are men that will treat women like that, but in most bars that I frequented in my past, the guy would have been pounded to a pulp by the bar regulars.

It reads like a bad “Lifetime” movie script.

Mark

[ClearCase_guy]

He became irate and threw a lit cigarette into my hair as I left the bar.

Yeah. Bet that never happened.

[sauropod]

bkmk

[stinkerpot65]

Feminist narrative - all men are predators.

Leftist thug author.

Leftist thug paper.

[cdcdawg]

I’m filing her story under “S__t That Never Happened”.

[rb22982]

It’s an implicit offer for 5-10 minutes of conversation, that’s about it. Where it goes from their is usually up to the woman.