Posted on 04/06/2018 7:07:09 AM PDT by Kaslin
Women have been complaining since the original Adams family was evicted from the Garden of Eden that "A good man is hard to find." Despite radical feminist mockery of the very idea of manliness, that men are natural sexual predators, most women -- with very few exceptions -- still want one.
The #MeToo movement has nevertheless changed a lot of things in the wake of the sexual harassment-scandal season. One of them is the regard in which men are universally held by women. It often seems we're back to the '80s, when there was a similar assault on the idea of manhood and some women decried all sex as rape.
Radical feminist activists Catherine MacKinnon and Andrea Dworkin were widely credited with saying that "all sex is rape" and "all men are rapists." They both deny the statements, but Dworkin conceded that she did say, "Penetrative intercourse is, by its nature, violent." We hear versions of the sentiment in #MeToo accounts of women talking about their encounters with boorish men.
One recent essay in The New York Times was titled "The Unexamined Brutality of the Male Libido." The headline, at least, was wrong. If there's one phenomenon that has not been "unexamined" in America over these past many months since Harvey Weinstein was exposed as the monster in every woman's bad dreams, it's the male libido. It has been endlessly examined, dissected, scorned and denounced.
Sebastian Junger, in a perceptive op-ed in National Review magazine, recalls how a friend once told him: "(B)eing a man meant two things: taking care of your loved ones and burying your dead. Everything flows from that."
Many men, encouraged by the culture, share more economic and child care responsibilities with women. But a natural protectiveness still emerges in violent situations, and women have been known to cherish and celebrate it.
"The definition of a man," says anthropologist Joyce Benson, "is someone you can count on when the enemy comes." Throughout history, men have demonstrated they are willing to put the safety of others above their own, usually their wives and children, but sometimes strangers. This is a male instinct that often emerges at an early age.
When a gunman killed 12 people at a movie theater in Aurora, Colorado, in 2012, four of the slain were young men who shielded women with their own bodies. The female species instinctively understands (and appreciates) that instinct. A British experiment in 2015 found that when women looked at photographs of men, they consistently chose men with combat medals as the more attractive. In a different study, women were attracted to men with facial scars.
Harvey Mansfield, a professor at Harvard and author of a book titled "Manliness," thinks it's hardly a coincidence that a "raw type of manliness" emerged in politics with the discounting of manliness. He notes provocatively that President Donald Trump has a raw manliness, such as that found in Russian President Vladimir Putin and President Recep Tayyip Erdogan of Turkey, "who are rough and gross and discourteous."
Raw manliness, he tells Tunku Varadarajan in The Wall Street Journal, is an invitation to the vulgar, and Trump's supporters "rather like and appreciate his vulgarity and his baseness, his impulsiveness." If women don't like the vulgarity, the crude and the rude, there are many women who nevertheless seem to appreciate the punching back against politically correct assumptions of manhood overly tamed.
Professor Mansfield echoes others' observations that Trump's unexpected triumph was not born of racial reaction to former President Barack Obama but of a backlash in favor of manliness. Obama was a scold who offered reproof with a voice couched in the refined cadences of the parlor, and Trump speaks with the uninhibited voice of the construction site, where rough talk is the lingua franca. Gender neutrality, seeking to erase all differences between men and women, is scorned.
Obama championed an America that "wouldn't throw its weight around," and this demonstrated a hostility toward manliness. Varadarajan writes: "Mansfield says that ... the president has little propensity for abstraction or intellectual complication. 'But he's shrewd. He saw that there was a way to be appealing, and to knock off the competition of his rivals in the Republican Party, by a display of manliness and an attack on political correctness." The throwback in politics drew on old macho stereotypes that appealed to men and women who found the feminist bravado of Hillary Clinton abrasive.
The good news, as Mansfield sees it, is that the steady march of gender neutrality is slowing. The change is not always pretty. Neither are manly men -- sometimes ribald, often roughly cut and ornery. But they can usually be tamed over time. Let's hope.
My favorite Mae West quote: Too much of a good thing can be wonderful.
But their behavior on the other hand indicates, in many cases, that "a hard man is good to find".
Women are no more or less virtuous than men.
We have identified and proclaimed to the heavens all male scummy, gross, and disgusting behavior driven by their fundamental polygamous instinct while neglecting all male constructive, inventive, sacrificial, and heroic behavior, while simultaneously pedestalizing women and failing to call out the immense and destructive effects of their hypergamy on marriage, family, the workplace, and on men.
She was a prostitute for a while.
Believe it or not ...
Its no secret women like strong men with a couple of scars who will protect them. If they take out the garbage even better. :-)
Empirical evidence over my lifetime belies this notion.
Good hunting, my FRiend. I took one out of the competition 33 years ago ...
“Penetrative intercourse is, by its nature, violent.”
Men and women view sex differently for obvious reasons:
A man’s sexual desire is to enter the woman’s body and deposit sperm there. A woman’s sexual desire is to be entered by the man and she WANTS him to deposit sperm there. It’s why his climax is extremely sexy to her.
But feminists have done a better job than puritans did of making it seem to be wrong and a sin. But in their case it is only a sin against the woman. It’s irrational.
sounds like me though the scars are from mostly fights, and the misses has kept be around for 23 years EEK. So it is the garbage what gets her. MMMMMMMM
Possibly, the only movements I can confirm are in my bowels.
The bad ones basically “deliver” as they are all up in your business and obsessive and stuck.
The good ones are basically the vast majority who don’t act like insane stalkers and are nice. They are the ones who stand out for the things they do.
Words are words, you are looking for deeds.
Mr. GG2 takes out the garbage with his XDS on his hip. :-)
most women wouldn’t recognize a good man if he stood before them.
A beta man would be one who was so much of a coward that he surrendered to shaming tactics and stopped standing up against the systemic problems men uniquely face.
To improve the dynamic between men and women, leaving the man needs to mean leaving the man’s money and everything that the man’s money paid for, regardless of marital status up to that point.
“Obama was a scold who offered reproof with a voice couched in the refined cadences of the parlor, and Trump speaks with the uninhibited voice of the construction site, where rough talk is the lingua franca. “
That’s the kind of stuff feminist’s say. :-)
I can say this because I’m female. The problem has nothing to do with men and everything to do with women.
Here is an example of the problem as I see it. There is a good-looking man who is well aware that he is a good-looking man and has been trading on that fact for years. There are other men around, smart, strong, competent men some of who are also quite good-looking. If you ignore the obsessive lazy pretty-boy, the other ones will begin to take you seriously and talk to you. The problem is that the obsessive lazy pretty boy will then tilt at you like a damn wind-mill and make you his One True Mission in life. The question is, what is a tried and true way to send the obsessive lazy pretty-boy packing?
I think this may be the female version of not sticking a part of your anatomy in crazy.
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