Coming Out As A Republican To My Democrat Family Went Worse Than Coming Out Gay

The Federalist ^ | 01/09/2018 | Adam Levine

[DFG]

I am not a sex offender. But a number of my friends no longer have time to see me. Lifelong acquaintances now regard me with fear and distrust. I have been unfriended en masse on social media and excoriated by friends who deign to remain. And I have been singly excluded from social gatherings when the rest of my family was invited.

No, I am not a sex offender. I am something even worse than that. I am a Donald Trump supporter.

[Deplorable American1776]

Welcome to the Republican Party...we only hate RINOs...😁

[DoughtyOne]

Thanks for the thoughts.

[AzNASCARfan]

Liberals will tolerate anything. Queers, sex offenders, rapists, even child molesters.

But not conservatives.

Problem is most conservatives (many on this board) wont even tolerate a gay conservative... I thought we were for personal freedoms and choices.

Don't get me wrong, my belief is that it is a sin, but is it our place to punish somebody for that sin or any others?? I personally will leave that to God to deal with as he sees fit... you know, glass houses and all. The way I read the bible we are all sinners and the only basic requirement I have is to accept Jesus Christ as my personal saviour and try to follow his teachings, we are all human, we WILL fail.

Sorry I learned that lesson as a young adult, I met somebody from my little hometown in this big city of Phoenix after I got here and got to know him over a few years as a co-worker. There were about 20 of us in the drafting department and a couple years later, he puts up a sign he is having a Christmas in July party and everybody is invited. My wife came in for lunch one day, saw the sign and said lets go, so I said sure and we told him we were planning to go. Later that day he pulled me off to the side and said there is something you should know, not that I have been hiding it, everybody else here knows, but I don't think you realize I am gay. He was right, it caught me off guard, but it did not make any difference... I had already formed an opinion on who he was and he was for the same things I was except for he was gay... was that reason alone enough to say stay away from me? Not for me, he had never made a pass at me, I assumed because he knew I was not gay! I guess if he had, we would not have been friendly anymore... but he didn't.

That was an important life lesson for me, because few years after we got married, my wife's brother came out as gay... was not a huge surprise by that time because we never saw him with a female, but unless he told people, most anybody he ever dealt with in day to day things would never have known. He was not that in your face gay guy... He is a great guy, would give anybody the shirt off his back. Much more of a business minded person and very conservative in the financial front, he manages a chain of gas station/mini marts and makes good money and does a lot of traveling around the world. He wont talk about how he votes, that is a game to him, leaving me to guess, but I know he wont vote a straight republican ticket.
One thing I do know, is I will never change his mind about anything or be able to show him the lifestyle he is living is wrong in God's eyes by belittling him or making things adversarial... but I might get a chance someday if I just live my life and lead by example... Treat his sister and his family right, maybe he will ask where I get my strength one day or I will know the time is right that I can talk to him rationally and tell him what I believe, if not, I just don't feel like its my place to tell him how I think he should live his life

Where I am going with this, a couple years before our oldest son graduated high school, he was offered the experience of a lifetime, something we could never give him... He had gotten into trouble and kicked out for missing too much school and had to drive himself to a charter school miles away. As an incentive to get back on the right path, my wife's brother told him if he graduated, he would take him on a two week trip to London, Paris and Prague. He did not miss another day, graduated with honors, went on to tech school and ten years later, a pretty damn good diesel mechanic, married with two girls.

I am fairly sure there are many others that would have had a problem with their 18 years old child doing the same thing and that is pretty sad! I know my dad would have, I found it pretty distasteful years ago when they were not going to sell their house to a gay guy, luckily they got an higher offer from somebody acceptable before they had to do something else about it I guess. He also would be beside himself if he knew the condo he stayed in for free that one week he visited was owned by a gay guy, after her brother offered that.

[SuperLuminal]

Just means you were living in a sea of ignorance and sin...and you have been saved...

I stopped (completely) speaking to my extended in-law family in CT after Ronald Reagan was gloriously elected...Name any leftist, communist-supporting scumbag politician and they are still, to this day, groveling on their collective knees before them...

Rumor has it that one of the women and her 17 yr old daughter are undergoing psychiatric counseling as a result of hillary's having the election stolen by DT. For an 84 yr old like me, hearing about that was ALMOST an orgasm-inducing moment.

[Paleo Conservative]

The elector for my congressional district in Texas in in 2016 is gay.

[Deplorable American1776]

Gays can be conservative...I know a few..we shouldn’t dismiss gays because they CAN be conservative...

[miniTAX]

Ironically, gays in Europe lean to the right on immigration issues because they are scared to death by Muslims.
Here in France, there are some high-profile attacks and even murders of gays by Muslims and there are a lot of no-go zones for gays, guess the demographic of those areas.

[Deplorable American1776]

I agree with you...A nephew is gay and if you didn’t know it, he is conservative...He hates those people who are out being outlandish...

[Toughluck_freeper]

Yeah...

Same oppressive feeling here...
I am lucky, my sister married a red-blooded American, a telephone pole tech which is also a Trump supporter, so she is my only family member with the same political leanings as I.

I try to avoid politics around my parents, my mother is getting old and it pains me to argue with her.

My brother and I go at it everytime we meet.

[Maverick68]

I trust a Gay Conservative more than I trust a straight Liberal 24/7.....Welcome to the Party, pal.....

[Albion Wilde]

I trust a Gay Conservative more than I trust a straight Liberal 24/7....

I agree, with reservations. I was raised in and worked in the arts for 40 years and gays/lesbians are unavoidable. The "out-and-proud" and "let's-have-gaybys" wasn't being done then, though, except by a small few. So I guess the "post-Stonewall, pre-gay marriage" gays I knew were roughly equivalent to today's gay conservatives. They weren't in the closet, but they weren't in your face all the time, either, so both sides were more tolerant.

I agree with miniTAX that gaycons can be allies against muslim invasion; but lesbians cannot. They are the broken glass progressives.

Now that marriage has been adopted, perhaps gay males' own conservatives can help herd the radicals towards the center on issues like cleaning up the gay parades and avoiding child sex; but I would expect regression on those topics politically, especially once the lesbians get involved.

Individual gaycons can be reasonably trustworthy friends, we should always treat respectful people with respect whatever may be in their private sphere, and gaycons as a group can be useful allies at various points in specific elections; but I wouldn't invest a lot of hopes on the group politically. Andrew Breitbart reached out to the Log Cabin Republicans; but they have wavered back and forth on issues.

[Maverick68]

The gay people I’ve been friends with have spent most of their lives simply wanting to be left alone.
Now it seems this “New Wave” wants confrontation.