To believe in any god that would condemn 3/4ths of the humans of this earth can not be a true, loving and fair god. While I associate with Christians as good people I know that there is a Divine Providence that loves the entire world and everyone in it and not one is condemned. The Creator did not authorize any written instructions for anyone. Revealed religion is actually an enemy of the Creator.
On the contrary, He has given men freedom to choose. Many choose sin and death. But God has also provided a way to salvation, through His own death on the cross. That's some God, one who would pay the penalty for my sin and only ask in return that I accept His free offer. Not cheap, since something priceless was given, but free.
The wages of sin is death. But the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. (Romans 6:23).
They CHOOSE to live without God. That doesn’t change when they die. Hell is the absence of God.
I’m not sure your religion from your post, but the Bible does state in Ecclesiastes 12:13? “Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter, Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.
Yes, God loves us and he is more than fair. But he is is also to be feared as he is fiercely just. I tremble at what his wrath could do, and thank Him for instilling in me faith and providing a path to salvation.