Your comment reminds me of a program for women I attended years ago ...
we had scenarios then had to choose from possible solutions...
One went like this...
A man wanted his girlfriend to come across a river to visit him so he called out to her to come over to his side...however there had been a storm and the river level had risen and the bridge had floated away...he kept calling and told her if she loved him she would find a way across the river...
She went up the river bank and found a rowboat but the man who owned it said she could only use it if she had sex with him...and so she did...
after she had rowed across the river her boyfriend asked her where she had gotten the boat...she told him that she loved him so much and wanted to be with him so desperately that she had had sex with a stranger and thus got the boat...
At that he spurned her and deserted her...
We had to have a show of hands if we agreed with either...the woman was at fault...the boyfriend was at fault... the man with the boat was at fault...
some said the boyfriend because he should have understood...some said the boat guy because he was mean etc...I was the only one to lay the blame right where it belonged, with the stupid female...I was the only one who got it wrong...I was spurned for daring to tell the darned truth...
and in this particular case again its the stupid females own fault...
So flame away....
You wont make innocent victims of these sluttish idiots no matter what you say...
In your story, you are right. She violated her relationship, and doing so for the “right reasons” doesn’t make it right.
But if a private image or video is shared, that is the fault of the person who shares it, not the person who participated in it.
Sure, the woman can avoid this by not making the video. Just as you can avoid getting cheated on by not ever getting into a relationship.
In fact, your story illustrates the point so well. In your story, the man, as part of a trusting relationship, asks his girlfriend to find a way across the river. He would have no reason to think she’d betray him by sleeping with someone else because of that request.
But your argument seems to be that it is HIS fault for trusting her when he asked her to cross the river, because he should have known better than to trust her.
I say that the woman put her trust in a man who did not deserve it, but that doesn’t make her “to blame”, it makes her the victim.
Now, if she had seen previous sex tapes he had made with other girls, then we could blame her for not using her head. But there are many guys out there who CAN be trusted not to betray a confidence. I certainly don’t want my girlfriend to think that if she ever trusts me with anything that is private, she’s being stupid.