In your story, you are right. She violated her relationship, and doing so for the “right reasons” doesn’t make it right.
But if a private image or video is shared, that is the fault of the person who shares it, not the person who participated in it.
Sure, the woman can avoid this by not making the video. Just as you can avoid getting cheated on by not ever getting into a relationship.
In fact, your story illustrates the point so well. In your story, the man, as part of a trusting relationship, asks his girlfriend to find a way across the river. He would have no reason to think she’d betray him by sleeping with someone else because of that request.
But your argument seems to be that it is HIS fault for trusting her when he asked her to cross the river, because he should have known better than to trust her.
I say that the woman put her trust in a man who did not deserve it, but that doesn’t make her “to blame”, it makes her the victim.
Now, if she had seen previous sex tapes he had made with other girls, then we could blame her for not using her head. But there are many guys out there who CAN be trusted not to betray a confidence. I certainly don’t want my girlfriend to think that if she ever trusts me with anything that is private, she’s being stupid.
But your argument seems to be that it is HIS fault for trusting her when he asked her to cross the river, because he should have known better than to trust her.
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No at the time I picked her as the one at fault ...
However he could have found a way across himself...
No I didn’t say either was stupid because they trusted...
I said the female was stupid to take her clothes off and get naked pics and videos and make sex tapes with her boyfriend...
I don’t care what the unspoken understanding was at the time ...did they really stop and think about the future use of any pics etc ??? ...I doubt it ...
Sexual Lust driven behavior usual doesn’t include any rational thought for the future...just immediate Hedonist gratification ...
as for “trust” there wouldn’t be much nor need for any..this was not a married couple who had exchanged promises and vows of eternal fidelity and trust and a heartfelt contract to look out for one another ..
This was just a male and a female and selfish fornicating ...