I had friends who had an anencephalic child (which they knew before birth) and the father the mother just went and held the child for the few hours until she died. Other friends had an anencephalic child who actually lived for a few weeks, and they spent time with him every day.
It’s a transforming experience for parents, and both of these couples were about the only ones I knew who didn’t get divorced during the ‘80s divorcemania.
wow.
Still and all, I hope my nieces and nephews never have to go through it.