Posted on 06/27/2015 7:35:43 AM PDT by SeekAndFind
It’s tough to be a gay conservative. I’m not complaining – it’s just true. I normally “politically identify” myself as an American first, conservative second…And I happen to be gay. But today is one of those days that really shines a light for me on being a living contradiction (in most people’s eyes).
I find myself very conflicted. I’m pleased with the outcome – though this has been an evolution for me. Yeah, I know – just like Barack Obama.
Truth is, before I started the GayPatriot blog, I wrote an op-ed about a decade ago for the Washington Blade, DC’s gay newspaper, and admitted that I was very ambivalent about “gay marriage.” I don’t remember much of the specifics of what I wrote and the article doesn’t appear online anymore. I did caution that the path toward same-sex marriage (I preferred civil unions) should be a long one and the people, not the judiciary, should decide.
I’ve been able to find only one excerpt from that op-ed:
“The backlash over gay marriage (in 2003) doesn’t come as a surprise to me. Since two-thirds of Americans (in 2003) oppose gay marriage, and the same percentage support legal protections for gays in the workplace, then why… are the radical gay groups forcing marriage down the throats of America at this time?”
As I’m sure you can guess — that didn’t make me a popular invitee to the fancy gay cocktail parties in D.C. where I lived at the time. I pointed out that before the 2004 Federal Marriage Amendment push, the gay activists were not taking the marriage issue seriously.
“We have Rosie O’Donnell who says she’s getting married in front of TV cameras merely because President Bush is opposed to it. Well, that’s one sure way for opponents to question the sincerity of the true commitment to gay marriage, isn’t it?”
And that is the point that I think has changed for me. It’s a generational change, you see. When I “came out” at age 26 in the mid-1990s, my friends and I would have laughed at anyone who suggested we have gay marriage. We were living in a subculture, separate from the mainstream, and we liked it. We also had very different concerns, as it was the peak of HIV/AIDS. My friends and I were probably the last age cohort to see friends die en masse.
And yes, the radical gay leftist groups originally didn’t talk about love and commitment. They talked about “fairness” and “getting back at the straights.” That all fell flat with me.
So it was left to a younger generation, who grew up in different circumstances than I, to lead the country on this issue. That’s the way life evolves.
What is frustrating for me is how incompetent the Republican Party handled this issue. Karl Rove – the progressive voice of illegal amnesty for demographic reasons – led the charge for the 2004 Federal Marriage Amendment. I have argued for years that the GOP should have led on the issue by supporting civil unions with strong religious liberty protections. Yes, the Supreme Court may have eventually sided toward “marriage” – but at least one political party would have been in the game and not alienating Millennials along the way.
So one can be happy at the outcome of today’s court decision, but not happy with the process or the rationale that it took to get there.
This morning, my partner of 15 years and I looked at each other and jokingly realized that perhaps – under common law – we were already legally married. So, like any good American, I immediately called our lawyer.
Bruce Carroll is the creator of the gay conservative blog -- GayPatriot.org. Bruce is an avid political junkie, loves his partner and his dogs, and can be found annoying the Left on Twitter -- @GayPatriot.
So is he going to get married now or continue shacking up and living in sin?
Gay... Conservative...?
Paging Dr. Oxymoron.
Conservative and queer is an oxymoron.
Log Cabin Republicrat? Take your crap encrusted log and go home.
I guess since he controls the money he gets to make the rules?
Homosexuals are homosexual first. It is really their entire world view.
GayPatriot. I rest my case.
Bruce, you are a degenerate and fool.
Conservatives need to start using these things to their own purpose, e.g., in the ruling:
“Held
: The Fourteenth Amendment requires a State to license a
marriage between two people of the same sex and to recognize a marriage between two people of the same sex when their marriage was lawfully licensed and performed out-of-State.”
So we should take this to heart and claim that one state’s issuance of a concealed carry permit requires other states to honor it.
oxymoron
So one can be happy at the outcome of today's court decision, but not happy with the process or the rationale that it took to get there.So what?
If somebody is in favor of smaller government, reducing the welfare state, is in favor of the Rule of Law, is against racial setasides, all that, then I will welcome him as a conservative.
Others may wildly disagree with me. Tough.
:It’s tough to be a gay conservative.”
Impossible actually. But easy to be an instrument of division.
What are “gay” couples? Does the author mean homosexual or same sex couples? If so, then I would suggest a more appropriate slang name for them would be “sads” or “sods” (sodomites) rather than the misnomer of “gays.”
Male sods are a known vector for AIDS and all manner of sexually transmitted diseases. If by allowing sods to “marry” it turns out that sod monogamy is increased, then this would be a slight public health benefit and about the only societal benefit to sod “marriage.”
Yeah, it’s tough to be a big government conservative as well. Just ask Jeb.
So we should take this to heart and claim that one state’s issuance of a concealed carry permit requires other states to honor it.Since this principle derives from same sex "marriage," that will only be true for two ladies wearing strap-on Glocks.
The author may have some conservative views. And that’s good. But if he prefers sex with someone of the same sex then he’s has a mental health issue. And that’s not good.
Some folks seem to think being conservative means being perfect, without sin.
We sure are blessed to have so many of them posting here.
So is he going to get married now ...Marriage is neither a privilege nor a right. It is the definition of the committed union of one man and one woman with the blessing and support of God and their community for the purpose of creating and raising a family into the next generation of functional adults. Only the nuclear family unit can provide a perfect model (man and woman, husband and wife, father and mother) to be repeated through natural reproduction in perpetuity. No other relationship can fulfill this role.
Same sex unions may be formed, but they are inherently infertile and, unlike traditional marriage, serve no fundamental purpose to society and thus are strictly private affairs. Calling same sex unions marriage is like putting a bonnet on a bowl movement and calling it baby. Doing so is dishonest, dystopian word-salad, straight out of the evil, dark fantasy worlds of "1984" and "Animal Farm."
Same sex union are fundamentally inferior to marriage and all people, regardless of their sexual leanings, have an equal opportunity to seek out a marriage partner of the opposite sex, thus the mistouted equal protection aspect of the 14th amendment does not any way, shape or form apply.
Gay Conservative= enemy agent.
Yep. Even gays calling themselves conservative are gloating at their perceived victory over God & traditionalism.
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