They see someone who is mature. They see someone who clearly knows what they want. They see someone who is established. They see someone who is more likely to only be interested in them, and not the other ten young women where ever they go.
Nineteen year old guys aren’t exactly mature. I’ll grant you that 19 year old women aren’t either, but they’re light years ahead of the guys their age generally.
Am I defending the guy here? Not really. I’m not convinced this is a good idea.
There are some cultures around where young guys simply are not interested in settling down. Then, of those who are, they aren’t what the young woman is looking for.
Well, you can’t fault a woman for not “settling”, if that is the right word, for someone who isn’t quite right for her. Whether due to age, maturity, or any other reason.
I guess I have a bias towards being involved with someone your own age. But I admit it’s a bias, thinking you have more in common with someone your age. And I admit that I don’t want to tell someone else what qualities are important in a relationship. All of us have to decide that for ourselves.