Posted on 04/06/2014 7:30:19 PM PDT by Jack Hydrazine
Women feel invisible to the opposite sex at the age of 51, it emerged yesterday.
A detailed study of 2,000 women revealed a large percentage felt they no longer received the level of attention they once did after hitting 51.
Many even went as far as to admit they felt ignored.
The women claimed their confidence plummeted after hitting 50 and blamed greying hair, having to to wear glasses or even struggling to find fashionable clothes.
The lifestyle study, commissioned by herbal remedies company, A.Vogel, also found more than two thirds of women over 45 had walked into a room and felt completely unnoticed by the opposite sex.
More than half said they felt left on the shelf and that theyd been judged negatively because of their age.
Health expert Eileen Durward, who provides advice and support to women through the A.Vogel website and helpline, said: The results show a worrying decline in confidence and self-worth in women when faced with the prospect of growing older.
The world can feel very geared toward appreciating younger women, leaving those of a certain age to feel neglected or less worthy.
These women are not invisible and neither are their concerns.
They are often the driving engine behind many a family, juggling careers, looking after older relatives and bringing up children.
All the while dealing with the ageing process and changes brought on by the menopause.
They need to be supported, not made to feel washed up.
The study also found just 15 per cent of women over 45 could claim they had high or very high confidence while, sadly, nearly half described themselves as not very confident at all.
The biggest reason for a decline in self-belief was the feeling that their image had deteriorated.
A dejected four in ten said not getting attention from men like they used to was a factor, more than half had felt intimidated by the presence of younger women at a social event.
A concerned six in ten of the 2,000 studied felt modern life is geared toward a focus on younger women while 46 per cent thought that a lot of what older women go through wasnt seen or spoken about.
The research also examined the effect the menopause has on womens confidence as they age.
The results showed around one in five who had experienced menopausal symptoms had difficulty in finding answers to the questions they had about the changes they were facing.
In fact, only 13 per cent felt women were well supported in the lead up to the menopause.
The research, which also involved 500 men, showed many have a head in the sand approach to the menopause.
Eileen Durward, who is also an expert on menopause, added: Women need to know they are not alone and there are things they can do to help themselves.
Hot flushes are a good example of something that can have a real impact on confidence, especially in social situations or at work.
Many women dont realise that simple steps, like breathing slowly or taking a herbal remedy containing sage, can provide relief.
Ha!
Wait ‘til they’re 81 like me.
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‘Villages’ Retirement Home is Widower’s Sex Paradise
Lady LAKE, Fla. It’s 11 p.m. at the Bourbon Street Bar, and Roselyn’s gyrating her hips to the blues band, Sue’s sipping a cocktail and flirting with her new boyfriend, and Alan is scanning the crowd for cute girls.
“See those two?” a buxom blonde asks, pointing to an elegant couple at the bar. “They were caught having sex in their golf cart a few weeks ago. It happens a lot!”
Welcome to ground zero for geriatrics who are seriously getting it on.
It’s a Thursday night at one of a half-dozen hot spots at the 20,000-acre Central Florida complex called The Villages, the largest gated retirement community in America and one of the most popular destinations for New Yorkers in their golden years where the female-to-male ratio runs 10 to 1.
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“Whatever you know about 20-year-olds, it’s the same with seniors,” said Roselyn Shelley, 68, a divorced former dancer.
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“...they felt like a couple of coconut halves.
Really creepy.”
Creeped by breasts like coconut halves? Ah, come on...you are having us on, our FRiend!
as if men are immune to this?
it may happen at a different age, but I can guarantee you that at a certain age 20 year old girls stop looking at men in... that way.
Jo Raquel Tejada, age 74.
Well i’m 46 and and I am REALLY getting pissed at how quickly time has flown by.
It seems like I woke up......at 46!
It wasn’t supposed to be like this, I was meant to be 24 FOREVER!
Now look what happened.
WTF?
Worst thing is i’m practically BROKE.......at 46.
Now what?
Well, yes. They're not separate entities.
> no longer received the level of attention they once did after hitting 51.
Isn’t this what women say they want? Why aren’t they celebrating?
I pretty much felt invisible to 25 year old women when I turned 40. Maybe God intended it that way.
A lot of married soccer moms gave all for the kids, relegating hubby to leftover status, then split up because they had no real union anymore. Now she’s alone and in her 50’s with wrinkles, sags and grey hair, and her past romantic interest plying lonely 40 somethings.
/.02
I remember when the song BACKSIDE OF THIRTY by John Connelly was about old people.
“We talking liberal single women over 50 that no one cares about anymore because they feel no one wants to bang them?”
Well, that’s just about all that (a few of them) had to offer...
On another subject, this entire article is sexist. I have noticed in the technological world, the only way you are actually “visible” at that age, man OR woman, is if you are a manager of people. I am lucky that apparently, a few of the right people can still see me.
Lose weight!
HI MOM!
My wife’s high school girlfriend has such large mamaries that she’s considered a breast reduction, but apparently her husband likes them. Me, I’m thinking they are like a couple of large tube socks ‘cause my wife sez that when she’s not wearing a bra they hang below her belly button.
I was literally laughing out loud while I typed that. It’s another word picture that just cracks me up. And causes me to involuntarily kinda shudder.
When it no longer pays ?
There is a sixtish lady at work who sometimes likes to rub her low hanging fruit against my arm. But at 72 even Viagra doesn’t help me so I ignore the, er, complement.
I can still see Marg Helgenberger very clearly. Even when she is not on TV...
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