Trouble is: Feminists did not study successful men. They didnt bother to carefully identify the behaviors by men that actually lead to success. Instead, obnoxious men stick out like a sore thumb. Female observers of a mans world assumed that the loud and pushy ones were the powerful men. And then two generations of American women were taught to copy those bad examples.
Ronald Reagan had a quote sitting on his desk: There is no limit to what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit. That is real power. Men who are truly influential are not bossy. Assertive, strong, and decisive, yes. Obnoxious, no.
Winning for men means coming in first, but then being able to buy the other team a round of drinks afterwards and cheerfully remain friends with those who came in second. For men growing up (at least it used to be this way) you havent truly won in competition, fair and square, if you cannot go out for lunch and swap jokes with the other team and slap each other on the back.
Feminists who set the tone for their movement did not understand what they were looking at within the mans world of business. Boys and men are socialized (traditionally) to play sports as a team. Yes, everyone tries to do their personal best. Yes, winning is the goal.
But a man trying to win at the expense of his teammates has violated the norms of male culture. A boy or a man who will not work together for the good of the team is an outcast. One who is only in it for himself reaps hostility. (Note, though: A team is not about serving the leaders personal interests, but about pursuing common goals together. The teams leader could be the offending prima donna.)
No, not it’s not Sheryl Sandberg, it’s Sheryl “Bossy” Sandberg.
Sandberg doesn’t see the irony. She’s the reason Zuckerberg married an Asian girl.
when an individual or organization calls for banning a word,all they are doing is encouraging others to go full force on it it.It’s just like that “Don’t Do That” scenario with children.You know a child will do just the opposite.Now we have millions of guys calling women bossy at work.
How easily the left decides that a word should be banned. How arrogant that they think they are entitled to tell the rest of us what we can and cannot say. How clueless that they dont recognize the totalitarian and anti-American nature of their actions.
“Bossy” is just another way of saying “micro-managerial”.
More distraction from real world issues.
I bet these people open paint cans with screwdrivers and pound nails with crescent wrenches.
It’s been a long time since successful men believed in sportsmanship. But then I always worked (in between theater jobs) in the corporate jungle of NYC and Los Angeles where throat-cutting was a daily occurrence. While I could never compete with that kind of behavior and didn’t want to, it did give me the impression that that was how to get ahead.
Dictating what words can/can’t be said, banning a word by fiat just seems so BOSSY!
Earth to Sheryl, you can’t stop me from doing anything at all.
Someone tell me what do they mean by banning the word. Are they trying to enact legislation to make it illegal, punishable by fines/jail or just attempting to make it taboo to use the word?
Bossy b-i itches DEMAND a ban on being called bossy b-i itches.