After reading about 1/3rd of your long description, I wonder if your friend will get any help under Obamacare. Many of the specialists who would treat your friend will opt out of the medical field rather than be slaves to government run health care.
I had a female friend who got hit in the head with a bat by a rapist. She developed epileptic seizures of the type that did not cause the convulsions but did cause a black out of consciousness. During those periods, she would go into a stare for minutes totally unaware of her surroundings. This prevented her from ever driving a car. She also developed bi-polar manic-depression and had to take lithium, which had nasty side effects. All these things made it difficult to get employment.