Well, it may surprise you, perhaps not, that I’m not sure you’re on the right track here.
We may not like what government has done with marriage, but it is important that couples make it as clear as can be that they are legally married.
Sudden deaths and final outcomes of property disbursement are much easier if there are clear relationships that can be proven.
This is best done with a marriage license that is on file at the county records office.
I’m sympathetic to your views here, because I think we are are less than thrilled with what government is doing in this area.
If you have kids, and the spouse goes south, you better believe you’re better off if you can prove your relationship, and that you had an active ongoing interest in those kids.
I understand what you are saying, but many of those issues can be managed legally with wills and other devices.
I am not sure it is wise to be more of a government patsy than you or your family has to be.