I also have lots of respect for one of my ham buddies in San Diego. He's blind. He makes a good living as a purchasing agent. When we had a 6.2 earthquake near El Centro, he was up all night coordinating emergency services via ham radio.
My oldest son had 4 open heart surgeries and terrible ADD. He managed to hold a job at Sears with limited hours. He had to walk to work because he was unsafe as a driver due to the ADD. He lived at my home until he passed at age 32 last year. The local social services office determined he wasn't eligible for any kind of disability assistance of any kind. You never want to outlive your children, but he would never have been able to earn enough to live independently. Most years he earned just enough to disqualify him as my "dependent", but his income didn't even cover the cost of his medications...never mind food/clothing/shelter/utilities.
I’m sure you must be very proud of all your son accomplished in his short life. Please accept my sympathy on his passing.
its not what you expect when your child is born...that they will have a lesser life...but it is what God has given...