"You lookin' at me?"
"You lookin' at me?"
“When a shooter opened fire at an Aurora, Colo. movie theater, no fewer than three young men protected their girlfriends from bullets with their own bodies — and died in the process.”
There’s still hope for our culture. You see signs in many places.
Gen 3:16
“your desire will be for your husband [his role], but he will rule over you”
I'm not particularly polite anymore, either. Such gestures must now be earned, not tendered gratis.
When my wife and I were first married, we followed civilized practices. When we went to the car, I opened her door and held it open until she was safely seated. When we arrived at our destination, I got out, went around to her side, opened the door and held it until she got out and then closed it.
During the 80’s and early 90’s, she was frequently castigated by females about our “quaint” way of doing things (the words were actually more harsh). Eventually we modified our routine so that I only open the door for her going to the car, but she gets out by herself. This seemed to cut down on the wisecracks by the she(male) faction.
A while back we had two cars in the shop at the same time so I had to pick her up from work. I opened the car door for her as a normal person would. The next day she was nearly mobbed by women she worked with, most of them in their 20’s and 30’s. The most plentiful comment was to the effect of: “your husband opens the door for you when you go someplace - golly where do you find guys like that anymore, does he have any younger brothers.” That's the second time she had received comments like that.
I think the younger generation of women may be starting to realize that equality does not mean identicality. There are fundamental differences between men and women, both physically and emotionally. There ought to be societal differences as well.
As a life long practicing heterosexual, I would not want it any other way!
I open doors for LADIES....and if older,anyone. Say good morning to strangers,(if in the right neighborhood), will ask anyone who can’t reach something in the supermarket if they need help, and say “yes ma’am” and “yes sir” to most who are waiting on me. It started when I was 10 or so, it’s a habit.
I like it when people are helpful to one another and don’t care if it’s a man being helpful to a woman. Kindness trumps ideology.
But there are people who are so eager to “help” you that they yank the door right out of your hand when you are coming out toward them, or push it from behind when they are coming in after you and you are still holding on to it.
I love the way the doormen suddenly start opening doors for you on December 1. A few years ago one of them so surprised me by yanking the door toward him that I fell down.
Do I sound too grumpy? I’m not really. I am very much in the Christmas spirit. It seems alive and healthy this year, with everyone happier, and friendlier, than they usually are.
I always hold a door open for women.
The vast majority say “Thank you” and continue on their way.
But, I do not have enough fingers and toes to count the number of times some rudeass beotch says, “ I can do that myself” or the more rude “ What the hell are you doing?”..
I used to get a little angry...
Now, I just slam the door back into their faces...
This is funny.
This very morning at work I was walking out to the lobby area. We have large, heavy doors (locked from the lobby) into our office area.
Two men were in front of me going out as well, and a man (Bob) was incoming. He held the door open for all 3 of us.
The 2 guys ahead of me made a big fuss (joking) says “Thanks Bob for holding the door!”
Bob just smirked and said “I was holding the door for the lady behind you”....
I try to go through life looking for people to help. I also know however that being old and female, it works better if I go first out of the elevator or through the door. Someone has to go first and age before beauty and ladies first both being social conventions I go first. Now if there is someone with a cane or walker no matter what the gender or age, he/she goes first. Oh, and I also have trained myself to always walk to the right. I’m left handed and I had to work at this and now I notice that a great many people go to the left (in a hall or narrow space). What’s with that?
Having said that, I think I've been glared at once for holding a door for a 'lady'.
I live on the third floor of our building, and none of us here, men or women, have a problem holding a door for anyone, moving furniture or whatever.
I spend a lot of time on a bicycle, and occasionally someone holds the door for me when I get home. Whoever it is, I say thanks.
“Womens studies”. Huh. Is that where they learn how to wash dishes, iron and mop the floor?
It’s alright sweetie - I open the door for my dog as well but he doesn’t bite me when I do it!
Mel
Not me. I enjoy being a girl!
I have opened doors for ladies and the elderly as long as I can remember and I won’t stop. I raised all my sons to do the same. I also always offer to assist ladies with anything heavy etc...
I have never been castigated for doing such but probably because I live in the south. Even then I would simply reply, “your welcome and move on” that IMO would do more to anger them but you have to remember as a Christian and gentleman example your are also being watched by others.
My son opens doors for me, at stores sometimes he ends up holding the door for the many who follow. I stand and wait, and when there is a break he joins me. The thing that really stands out is how many young men do not know that it is their responsibiltiy to take over the door holding for their companions.
Women, I’m really sorry you’re not men, but I sure hope someday you learn to deal with it.
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