Posted on 12/14/2012 5:29:50 AM PST by Kaslin
"You lookin' at me?"
Agreed.
But one reaps what one sows with their behavior.
And I do not consider feminism, which is a form of leftism. to be an ideology that believes in polite behavior. Quite the contrary. They have made their gains largely by being hostile, impolite, and demeaning.
But men, once again, are supposed to smile when we are being kicked in the teeth and we are supposed to say, “Thank ma’amsir, may I have another?”
I’ve had enough women sneer at my gentlemanly behavior that I am now hesitant to be gentlemanly to anyone. If I take that chance and someone is rude, they get a very nasty response, far nastier than they would ever have expected. I like that look of shock on their faces. They need to know that politeness begets politeness and rudeness begets rudeness. Middle class men have been the scapegoat and the punching bag long enough.
But the short of the story is that, once again, feminists, which are a form of leftist, want the absolute best of everything and they want everyone to be nice to them and praise them while they are destroying others.
“When a shooter opened fire at an Aurora, Colo. movie theater, no fewer than three young men protected their girlfriends from bullets with their own bodies — and died in the process.”
There’s still hope for our culture. You see signs in many places.
Gen 3:16
“your desire will be for your husband [his role], but he will rule over you”
She is trying so hard to capture all the qualities of men that she claims to loathe, and yet, she succeeds in only looking like a weakling and a pathetic attempt at ‘tough.’
I'm not particularly polite anymore, either. Such gestures must now be earned, not tendered gratis.
When my wife and I were first married, we followed civilized practices. When we went to the car, I opened her door and held it open until she was safely seated. When we arrived at our destination, I got out, went around to her side, opened the door and held it until she got out and then closed it.
During the 80’s and early 90’s, she was frequently castigated by females about our “quaint” way of doing things (the words were actually more harsh). Eventually we modified our routine so that I only open the door for her going to the car, but she gets out by herself. This seemed to cut down on the wisecracks by the she(male) faction.
A while back we had two cars in the shop at the same time so I had to pick her up from work. I opened the car door for her as a normal person would. The next day she was nearly mobbed by women she worked with, most of them in their 20’s and 30’s. The most plentiful comment was to the effect of: “your husband opens the door for you when you go someplace - golly where do you find guys like that anymore, does he have any younger brothers.” That's the second time she had received comments like that.
I think the younger generation of women may be starting to realize that equality does not mean identicality. There are fundamental differences between men and women, both physically and emotionally. There ought to be societal differences as well.
As a life long practicing heterosexual, I would not want it any other way!
I open doors for LADIES....and if older,anyone. Say good morning to strangers,(if in the right neighborhood), will ask anyone who can’t reach something in the supermarket if they need help, and say “yes ma’am” and “yes sir” to most who are waiting on me. It started when I was 10 or so, it’s a habit.
“...that I am now hesitant to be gentlemanly to anyone.”
I experienced November 6, 2012. My gentlemanly-ness got tossed on the “GFY” pile for good.
Strangers get NOTHING from me. An Obama-supporting looking woman with a kid? Open your own f*cking door. Some as*hole in a Prius that wants my parking spot? I shut my directional off and let them pass by. Patience at the grocery store when some jerk-off can’t scan their items at the self check out? Now I say: “People are waiting!” and swear. “What the f**k” has become very popular for me to say.
I’m done. Elections have consequences. As soon as I’d crawl on my ass-cheeks over broken glass to avoid asking a lib for help, don’t ask me for anything either.
I like it when people are helpful to one another and don’t care if it’s a man being helpful to a woman. Kindness trumps ideology.
But there are people who are so eager to “help” you that they yank the door right out of your hand when you are coming out toward them, or push it from behind when they are coming in after you and you are still holding on to it.
I love the way the doormen suddenly start opening doors for you on December 1. A few years ago one of them so surprised me by yanking the door toward him that I fell down.
Do I sound too grumpy? I’m not really. I am very much in the Christmas spirit. It seems alive and healthy this year, with everyone happier, and friendlier, than they usually are.
I’m 32 and recently married. My wife, while we were dating, was constantly barraged by women asking her, “Where did you find him?” I open the door for her when we go to the car. I hold doors for her. I always walk with her so that I’m protecting her (i.e. nearest to traffic on a sidewalk), and when we’re in a restaurant, I always face the restaurant to be aware of who is coming and going and I can react if danger comes in.
It’s funny, because so many reasons have been given for the opposite of all of these behaviors: “opening the car door for her could mean she could be in the car if you’re carjacked; you couldn’t pull her away from danger if you were walking near the traffic; your eyes can wander and look at the other women in the restaurant. How rude!”
I also wear a hat when I’m out and carry a sidearm. People eschew the traditional values of our fathers from a mere 50 years ago, yet things worked so much better and were so much more pleasant than they are now. I deliberately sought out women who treasured my traditional/classic upbringing, and I married the one who appreciated it the most.
A few years ago, I was passing through an office building’s glass front door and held it open for the young woman immediately behind me. It’s just the way I was raised, I guess. She was outraged and told me that she was insulted that I would do such a thing. So, I looked her directly in the eye and slowly, deliberately, shut the door in her face.
most of the mannerisms associated with the way men should treat women are rooted in the practical.
It’s not just that women are/or were too weak to open the door, it’s just that they were historically nearly constantly pregnant or holding a small child making simple things like opening a door nearly impossible.
Birth control changed many things.
We have a 10 year old son in fifth grade—second year Webelo in the Scouts and altar server to boot. He has always been a gentleman. One of the most common comments we receive from his teachers is that he is so polite and treats the girls in his class with respect. As a result, he is well-liked by the young ladies at school.
He is always opening doors for me (or his sisters, ages 14 and 8) when we are out somewhere. It’s not something we told him to do. It’s just something that he has learned from observing the way his dad treats me (and other women like his mom or sister).
You were taught correctly by your parents and probably teachers
I always hold a door open for women.
The vast majority say “Thank you” and continue on their way.
But, I do not have enough fingers and toes to count the number of times some rudeass beotch says, “ I can do that myself” or the more rude “ What the hell are you doing?”..
I used to get a little angry...
Now, I just slam the door back into their faces...
I totally agree and have become the exact same way.
If I think they’re a leftist, I want to make their day miserable.
“Another a$$hole who voted for the communist in the White House,” is one of my favorites. And, yes, I say it loud enough that they hear me and have no misunderstanding what they say.
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