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Denial ain't just a river in Egypt - Republican conservatives can't handle the truth about Romney
Tom Hoefling for President 2012 ^ | April 27, 2012 | Tom Hoefling

Posted on 04/27/2012 6:57:39 AM PDT by EternalVigilance

Tom Hoefling

April 27, 2012

I deal on a regular daily basis with self-identified conservatives all across America who are addicted to the Republican Party. And when it comes to the impending nomination by their party of the most liberal governor in U.S. history, Mitt Romney, their reactions are overwhelmingly in line with the classic symptoms described below. We can't make them face reality, of course. All we can do is to keep pointing it out to them, in the sincere hope that they will recover in time to help save the country. 

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From Wikipedia :

Denial (also called abnegation) is a defense mechanism postulated by Sigmund Freud, in which a person is faced with a fact that is too uncomfortable to accept and rejects it instead, insisting that it is not true despite what may be overwhelming evidence. The subject may use:

The concept of denial is particularly important to the study of addiction. The theory of denial was first researched seriously by Anna Freud. She classified denial as a mechanism of the immature mind, because it conflicts with the ability to learn from and cope with reality. Where denial occurs in mature minds, it is most often associated with death, dying and rape.

Denial of fact

In this form of denial, someone avoids a fact by lying. This lying can take the form of an outright falsehood (commission), leaving out certain details to tailor a story (omission), or by falsely agreeing to something (assent, also referred to as "yessing" behavior). Someone who is in denial of fact is typically using lies to avoid facts they think may be painful to themselves or others.

Denial of responsibility

This form of denial involves avoiding personal responsibility by:

Someone using denial of responsibility is usually attempting to avoid potential harm or pain by shifting attention away from themselves.

For example: Troy breaks up with his girlfriend because he is unable to control his anger, and then blames her for everything that ever happened.

Denial of impact

Denial of impact involves a person's avoiding thinking about or understanding the harms of his or her behavior has caused to self or others, i.e. denial of the consequences. Doing this enables that person to avoid feeling a sense of guilt and it can prevent him or her from developing remorse or empathy for others. Denial of impact reduces or eliminates a sense of pain or harm from poor decisions.

Denial of awareness

This type of denial is best discussed by looking at the concept of state dependent learning. People using this type of denial will avoid pain and harm by stating they were in a different state of awareness (such as alcohol or drug intoxication or on occasion mental health related). This type of denial often overlaps with denial of responsibility.

Denial of cycle

Many who use this type of denial will say things such as, "it just happened". Denial of cycle is where a person avoids looking at their decisions leading up to an event or does not consider their pattern of decision making and how harmful behavior is repeated. The pain and harm being avoided by this type of denial is more of the effort needed to change the focus from a singular event to looking at preceding events. It can also serve as a way to blame or justify behavior (see above).

Denial of denial

This can be a difficult concept for many people to identify with in themselves, but is a major barrier to changing hurtful behaviors. Denial of denial involves thoughts, actions and behaviors which bolster confidence that nothing needs to be changed in one's personal behavior. This form of denial typically overlaps with all of the other forms of denial, but involves more self-delusion. Denial at this level can have significant consequences both personally and at a societal level.

DARVO

Harassment covers a wide range of offensive behaviour. It is commonly understood as behaviour intended to disturb or upset. In the legal sense, it is behaviour which is found threatening or disturbing.

DARVO is an acronym to describe a common strategy of abusers: Deny the abuse, then Attack the victim for attempting to make them accountable for their offense, thereby Reversing Victim and Offender.

Psychologist Jennifer Freyd writes:

...I have observed that actual abusers threaten, bully and make a nightmare for anyone who holds them accountable or asks them to change their abusive behavior. This attack, intended to chill and terrify, typically includes threats of law suits, overt and covert attacks on the whistle-blower's credibility, and so on. The attack will often take the form of focusing on ridiculing the person who attempts to hold the offender accountable. [...] [T]he offender rapidly creates the impression that the abuser is the wronged one, while the victim or concerned observer is the offender. Figure and ground are completely reversed. [...] The offender is on the offense and the person attempting to hold the offender accountable is put on the defense.




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To: P-Marlowe
s it possible that you are in that river in Egypt?

No.

101 posted on 04/27/2012 9:20:41 AM PDT by EternalVigilance (Romney Republicanism. Even Jimmy Carter can be comfortable with it.)
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To: netmilsmom

Who said anything about staying home? This is one of the accusations being made, and it’s intellectually dishonest. I’ll vote downticket for conservatives, and likely for Goode in the presidential slot.

Women in Massachusetts are walking into clinics today, plunking down two twenties and a ten, and getting their abortions thanks to Romney. Dead is dead. Both he and Obama have blood on their hands.

Look at Romney’s record of appointing judges. The majority were baby-killing leftists. Again, as guilty as Obama on that score.

Maybe I’m speaking in a foreign language here, but I thought I made clear that the influence on my decision is my loyalty to God, not my anger at the GOP. Even if I get over that, I still have to do the right thing. You can argue with me all day, but there it is.


102 posted on 04/27/2012 9:21:48 AM PDT by CatherineofAragon (Time for a write-in campaign...Darryl Dixon for President)
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To: CharacterCounts

Douglas Foy is not an avowed communist.


103 posted on 04/27/2012 9:22:10 AM PDT by netmilsmom (I am Breitbart)
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To: SoothingDave

Thank you


104 posted on 04/27/2012 9:25:00 AM PDT by netmilsmom (I am Breitbart)
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To: SoothingDave

Waste my vote? Let’s get something straight here. My duty is to vote, not to pull the lever for the person you deem acceptable. Research the Founders’ views on that issue.

Choosing the lesser evil is still choosing evil. You can do that if you like, and attempt to justify it if you like. I’m not going to vote for that abortion/sodomite loving, gun-grabbing, tax-raising, global-warming believing liberal. I might as well go over to the Democratic party.


105 posted on 04/27/2012 9:27:08 AM PDT by CatherineofAragon (Time for a write-in campaign...Darryl Dixon for President)
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To: Baynative

How is Romney any less dangerous than Obama? Explain that to me, please!


106 posted on 04/27/2012 9:28:26 AM PDT by Jack Hydrazine (It's the end of the world as we know it and I feel fine!)
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To: EternalVigilance

The only “truth” that I am concerned about at this point in time is that Mitt is NOT Obama. That’s all that matters.


107 posted on 04/27/2012 9:30:40 AM PDT by A. Patriot (Have we lost our Republic? Do the majority of Americans care?)
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To: P-Marlowe
The key to balancing the budget, from the father of our Constitution, James Madison:

"I cannot undertake to lay my finger on that article of the Constitution which granted a right to Congress of expending, on objects of benevolence, the money of their constituents."


108 posted on 04/27/2012 9:33:32 AM PDT by EternalVigilance (Romney Republicanism. Even Jimmy Carter can be comfortable with it.)
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To: A. Patriot
The only “truth” that I am concerned about at this point in time is that Mitt is NOT Obama. That’s all that matters.

The classic symptoms, as described at the top of this thread.

109 posted on 04/27/2012 9:37:53 AM PDT by EternalVigilance (Romney Republicanism. Even Jimmy Carter can be comfortable with it.)
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To: netmilsmom
Douglas Foy is not an avowed communist.

I said she was not Van Jones. She's just a far left socialist, Obama supporting, environmental whacko, who finds a lot more in common with Van Jones than you want to admit.

Splitting hairs is just another form of denial.

110 posted on 04/27/2012 9:38:36 AM PDT by CharacterCounts (A vote for the lesser of two evils only insures the triumph of evil.)
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To: Jack Hydrazine
Romney believes in free economy and the enabling of American entrepreneurship. He believes we need to close our borders and enforce immigration law. He will not appoint communist sympathizers and political activists to the Supreme Court. He believes in a strong national defense. He supports the Keystone pipeline and energy independence. He an I align on these points.

There are several issues where I do not agree with him and places he has wavered in the past, or maybe been moved by voter sentiment. As I said, he was not the candidate I favored. But, I am going to do all I can to end Obama's time in office.

I am not jumping for joy over the outcome of the primaries but, I am remembering Ronald Reagan's comment that he could always work with someone whom he agrees with 80% of the time. Regarding Obama; we agree on nothing.

111 posted on 04/27/2012 9:41:05 AM PDT by Baynative (Please check this out - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fFIcZkEzc8I)
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To: P-Marlowe
"And this is the tendency of all human governments. A departure from principle in one instance becomes a precedent for a second; that second for a third; and so on, till the bulk of the society is reduced to be mere automatons of misery, and to have no sensibilities left but for sinning and suffering. Then begins, indeed, the -bellum omnium in omnia*-, which some philosophers observing to be so general in this world, have mistaken it for the natural, instead of the abusive state of man. And the fore horse of this frightful team is public debt. Taxation follows that, and in its train wretchedness and oppression."

-- Thomas Jefferson, Letter to Samuel Kercheval, Monticello, July 12, 1816


112 posted on 04/27/2012 9:41:08 AM PDT by EternalVigilance (Romney Republicanism. Even Jimmy Carter can be comfortable with it.)
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To: CatherineofAragon; netmilsmom

Jesus taught the parable of the talents. He did not approve of those who do not put to use what has been given to them.

You have the opportunity to make a difference in the world. To change the future that all who can see know that Obama will bring in a second term.

Or you can bury your talents in a hole in the ground called “3rd party dreaming” and “it’s not my fault.”


113 posted on 04/27/2012 9:45:29 AM PDT by SoothingDave
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To: Baynative
Romney believes in free economy and the enabling of American entrepreneurship.

I guess you missed the news about him signing the model for ObamaCare into law in Massachusetts.

114 posted on 04/27/2012 9:45:49 AM PDT by EternalVigilance (Romney Republicanism. Even Jimmy Carter can be comfortable with it.)
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To: CatherineofAragon

I agree with everything you say about Romney. But Obama is destroying America on purpose. That has always been his plan. I don’t think Romney will do that. That is a very big difference between the two.

Here are your choices put another way:

A. Stay at home, don’t vote for Romney (or) against Obama - lose the country to socialism along with our rights, our freedoms, our wealth, and our ability to create wealth for ourselves and our children.

B. Vote for Romney, we have a chance to save our Republic.

These are your choices pure and simple.

IMHO, anyone who doesn’t go out and vote for whoever is the Republican candidate, is either very naive and is living in a fantasy world, or is a Marxist and wants to see the collapse of America to be replaced with a socialist police state.


115 posted on 04/27/2012 9:47:02 AM PDT by A. Patriot (Have we lost our Republic? Do the majority of Americans care?)
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To: SoothingDave

Wow. That post exhibits the symptoms to the nth degree. I’m in awe.


116 posted on 04/27/2012 9:47:02 AM PDT by EternalVigilance (Romney Republicanism. Even Jimmy Carter can be comfortable with it.)
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To: Baynative

“Romney believes in free economy and the enabling of American entrepreneurship.”

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! You’ve been drinking way to much of that Romney Flavor-Aid!!!! LOL!

A hardcore Leftist believing in free economy and the enabling of American entrepreneurship is freaking illogical. If you believe that lying SOB you are more deluded than you realize. You are so lost it isn’t even funny.

But if you honestly believe him I have a bridge to sell ya in Brooklyn! I’ll make an offer you can’t refuse! LOLOLOLOLOL!


117 posted on 04/27/2012 9:48:36 AM PDT by Jack Hydrazine (It's the end of the world as we know it and I feel fine!)
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To: A. Patriot
IMHO, anyone who doesn’t go out and vote for whoever is the Republican candidate, is either very naive and is living in a fantasy world, or is a Marxist and wants to see the collapse of America to be replaced with a socialist police state.

When someone tells me to pick my poison, I simply say "no."

118 posted on 04/27/2012 9:48:41 AM PDT by EternalVigilance (Romney Republicanism. Even Jimmy Carter can be comfortable with it.)
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To: CharacterCounts

>>Splitting hairs is just another form of denial. <<

Telling Putin to wait until a second term is not splitting hairs. Van Jones SAYING that he is a Communist is not splitting hairs.

How about the Muslim Brotherhood?


119 posted on 04/27/2012 9:50:13 AM PDT by netmilsmom (I am Breitbart)
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To: EternalVigilance

>>When someone tells me to pick my poison, I simply say “no.” <<

And get poisoned anyway.

Sorry, I have kids who will live with the consequences of my actions.


120 posted on 04/27/2012 9:52:40 AM PDT by netmilsmom (I am Breitbart)
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