Posted on 11/14/2011 6:59:08 AM PST by afraidfortherepublic
When I was a young naive college freshman, I caught a bad cold and visited my college infirmary. The physician was an extremely handsome man who touched me inappropriately at the end of his listening to my chest. As I remember it now, over twenty years later, in the context of a physical medical exam, the doctor touched first my breast and then my buttocks in a very intimate and suggestive manner.
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That is how things would be handled in a just world. Then a sign would be put up in front of the perv doctors office door announcing he is a perv.
What? Doctors don’t examine women without another female in the room. I thought girls today were so much smarter than their mothers?
I’ll never forget having the music minister of my church call my, anonymously, dozens of times over a period of a few months. This was before caller ID. After several of these calls, in which he never said anything, I began listening to the background noise and it was always the same. I could hear office-type chatter. While I was listening to the background noise, the caller never said a word. It scared me to death but I didn’t think the calls were threatening enough to involve the police. Months later, he called again, identified himself, and told me he wanted to make a ‘pastoral visit’ sometime. I didn’t immediately realize he was the caller but read between the lines and told him to never call me again. When I contacted one of the other pastors at the church, I was told that I should feel flattered.
How many will blame this woman for writing her story now and claim that she’s exploiting Herman Cain’s “troubles?”
And she’s just asking for it, right?
She did the right thing, even as a 17 year old, and was treated as though she was the perpetrator, not the victim. “Blame the victim” is common in sexual harassment and that is why the perpetrators get by with it.
The abusers are usually in positions of some power, but not always. They like to take advantage of hourly wage earners and students, but even professional women are not immune — because who would believe them?
There is nearly always some element of “deniability.” Like this doctor, they’re good family men or it’s part of their job, he was just being friendly and helpful, or they were just making a joke, or it was just a compliment, etc.
What is overlooked when we discuss sexual harassment is that abuse is not due to sexual needs or attraction. At its base is the power and control that the abuser believes he has. He does it because he can, because he’s smarter than the rest of us, and because of the sexual nature, he can get his thrills (even without actual sex) and she will be intimidated, limited and/or humiliated if she objects.
(Thanks for the subject of my blog, today.)
This may or may not have happened, who knows any more. Women lie about rape (Duke being a good example) and sexual assault all the time. Seems to me that she may have just ran out of ideas so wrote up the standard “I was sexually molested and then the big bad administration covered it up” story line which always gets a rise out of feminists and white knights. Personally I’m inclined to dis-believe her as this tired old saw has been done way too many times. Just more feminist porn, especially with the “handsome young doctor” angle.
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The problem was not with her wishing to complain. It was with the PC “no options rules”, the Feminazi’s have instituted and the gutless administrators had bought into. There was and is no room in the system for an administrator to act with any discretion because that would make him responsible for the possible perpetuation of the molestation. He must either unfound and kill the accusation or he must take it to the authorities. There is no middle ground.
If you have to think about, “was that a good touch or a bad touch?”; the jerk doctor probably taught you a valuable lesson about relativism. You need to know your boundaries.
All the people here recently who have been trashing women who file sexual harrassment complaints should have to read this. It happens all the time, and making a complaint is not something a woman does casually or for fun or because she’s a “gold-digger.”
An enormous number of times, the woman is treated as the guilty party or harangued about “ruining the life” of the person who victimized her or even told that most women would be flattered to be groped by the school doctor, the music minister, the boss, etc.
These things are real, they do happen, they’re not the fault of the woman, and it is perfectly legitimate for women to file complaints about them because that’s the only thing that stops people from doing things like this.
BTW, the same goes for children who complain - their families are often dissuaded from following it up.
A possible explanation - and I am neither saying what happened to her was trivial or that the method is a good one - is that the Dean was trying to filter out a frivolous complaint before he proceeded to put the doc through the wringer. We’ll never know what might have happened if she had said “give me the phone, I will make the complaint.”
Yeah, in the Army the first thing that came out of CID’s yap in the 80s was the female soldier was “gay” if she reported a rape.
In the article it reads that this was “twenty years ago”. Sometime after Anita Hill they made it mandatory for a female nurse to be in the room with a male doctor. Before then I can remember when there was not one.
Several people have claimed that this "happens all the time".
No it doesn't.
There also seems to be an assumption that women (or men) would never make claims like this out of the clear blue.
That isn't true either.
Let me give a personal example.
A number of years ago, a patient came to see me without an appointment. She told the staff she had something really important to tell me about. I saw her in my office to the inconvenience of those people who had scheduled appointments. She said she was going to kill herself if I didn't admit her to the hospital. The reasons are not germane to the discussion.
Because all the staff were tied up, I escorted the patient in full public view down the hallway to the inpatient unit where the hospital staff admitted here.
She later claimed that I raped her on the way to the office and filed a complaint with the State Medical Board who, by law, was required to forward the complaint to the Attorney General's office. The AG's office sent someone to interview me several months later. When I asked them why they waited so long before pursuing such a seemingly important matter, the woman told me that this patient had made similar false claims in the past.
I GET the reasons why avenues to pursue these types of complaints exist and I cooperate with them even though they are untrue and it takes time away from my patients and their care.
But to assume that people are being abused by their physicians "all the time" and that their claims are always true it just utter nonsense.
Who here doesn’t believe in sexual harassment? I know a bit about it, unfortunately, and it is NOT in the category of a computer joke, a height joke or someone giggling while reading a prepared statement. And neither is it sticking two dames with a $400 bill.
Untrue. You just made that up.
It has always been standard recommended practice to have a female standby for a male physician examining a female patient and it extremely unwise not to for liability purposes. When two people are in a room alone, anyone can make any claim about the other person that they chose to make and, without a witness, there is very little that can be said about the encounter.
To needlessly subject oneself to that risk by examining a patient without a standby is foolish. Nowadays, I almost wonder if a standby might be a good idea with same sex patients although I don't really know anyone who does that routinely.
So sorry to hear of your ordeal. What a disgrace! That woman makes it so much worse for an honest woman to step forward and report a very real rape. She belongs in prison.
I knew I hadn't done anything wrong so I wasn't worried about it. And, if the state somehow had tried to bring consequences about as a result of it, I would have been able to defend myself.
It is sometimes a difficult set of circumstances for young physicians to deal with but, after a while, nothing that happens surprises me any more.
Any above board doctor since at least the 1970s—when the feminazi movement picked up steam—should have had the good sense to never be seeing a female patient alone.
Hell, any above board male supervisor since then should know better than to counsel anyone—let alone someone of the oppostie sex—without a witness.
It is difficult for me to put any credence to alleged sexual abuse/harrassment never reported until decades after the event. All the women I know would have kicked these b******* in the nuts and then called the police.
I thought women—most of them anyway—had gotten over the victim syndrome years ago.
http://wingright.org/2011/11/14/sexual-harassment-is-about-power-not-sex/
trapped in LA proves my point.
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