Well, sort of. The problem is not "single mothers," because historically, there have always been a lot of them, either because Daddy got killed in the wars, Daddy was just a passing fancy, or for other reasons totally beyond anybody's control. And many of those mothers did a great job.
The problem is that society has now adopted a model where the child is the woman's "problem," and Daddy is just the sperm donor. Some women are up to dealing with this, but most are not. And even men, who thought it was going to be really cool to go where the wild geese go, be totally free and untethered, not have to worry about bothersome women and their bothersome pregnancies and relationships, are suddenly finding that their lives are totally screwed up.
So don't blame the women. Blame a society that has totally dumped the idea of male responsibility, female stability, family bonds and anybody giving a darn about the child.
Single mothers are the result of society condoning sin and praising single motherhood.
It's Society as you say, and the agenda that the leftists are pushing in order to destroy all that is good and right.
livius: “The problem is not “single mothers,” because historically, there have always been a lot of them, either because Daddy got killed in the wars, Daddy was just a passing fancy, or for other reasons totally beyond anybody’s control.”
It’s all a matter of degree. If you’re making the point that single mothers made up a significant portion of the population historically, I have to disagree. Yes. There were men killed in wars, but the number of males killed versus those not killed was relatively insignificant (at least in America).
The US in WWII had about 130 million souls, but it only lost a bit more than 400 thousand killed. I’m not making light of the men killed, but compared to roughly 65 million men in the population at that time, you’re talking about a very tiny percent killed. That’s hardly “a lot” of single mothers.
I submit that nothing in American history comes even remotely close to the single motherhood rates (or attitudes) of today. In the past, I bet single mothers usually remarried fairly quickly, and having a child out of wedlock was (rightly) considered a bad thing. For the relatively small numbers of widows who didn’t remarry, society was generally supportive. Being a widow didn’t bear the same negative connotation as being an unmarried mother.
However, you’re right that nowadays most folks see nothing wrong with sex outside of marriage. Spiritually, the rules are the same as always, so fornicators and adulterers are still destined to Hell if they don’t repent. Unfortunately, that message no longer resonates with many people who think that being “non judgmental” is the greatest moral attribute one can have.
Good post.
Great points. Insightful...
There is a huge difference between a single mother, and a widowed mother. The main one is, the father, though absent, is heroically praised and brought up to the child. The child of a deceased man, is told of how proud their father would be, or how ashamed he may become depending on circumstances. The child gets to look at pictures of him, is told stories of how the mother met him. Is constantly amazed at how many people loved their father. Contrast that with the single mother, that will replace the guy as quickly and as often as needed. Who tears apart his personality and pictures with equal ferocity. Who is frankly embarrassed or ashamed, and passes that guilt on to the child. Between deadbeat sugar daddy or hook up artiste, and dead soldier, fireman, or cop, no comparison.
All of these things that you describe have been glorified by the media since Hugh Heffner back in the fifties. Looking back we can see the proof of how powerful the entertainment media is and how totally follow-the-leader dumb so many human beings are.