I would say that most homosexuals are made that way after birth, perhaps through some trauma (molestation). In these cases, counseling is certainly indicated. Many cases involving cured homosexuals are known.
However, there may be some cases of people being born homosexual, perhaps through the effects of hormones in the womb. Perhaps counseling cannot help these people to change. Nevertheless, I would expect them to control their behavior. I do believe that humans have free will and that those who engage in improper behavior (and we all do) need to recognize that "My behavior was wrong".
It is my belief that our society discourages the idea that homosexuality is wrong and that, today, most homosexuals simply do not recognize that they ought to try to not live that lifestyle. This goes for those who are "born that way" or those who were not. Acting upon the desires is always a choice, and if society doesn't tell then it is a bad choice, then society is not helping them.
“Acting upon the desires is always a choice, and if society doesn’t tell then it is a bad choice, then society is not helping them.”
People all over refuse to do right. It isn’t just homosexuals. Illegal aliens, for example, refuse to accept they are wrong for coming here illegally. The circumstances are beyond their control, they deserve to come here, there shouldn’t be any borders, they are only doing the work that Americans won’t do. The excuses never stop. No one in this day and age is ever responsible for their own actions. It’s always somebody else’s fault.
Like most pedophiles, many homosexuals comment that they were molested as children. Neither behavior is something to be celebrated or admired; both are destructive.