Ol' Marty, back in the day.
I gave up trying to impress women. I ain’t rich and I can’t carry a dozen donuts without hands. The 2 biggest things going for me is I am conservative and I am not dead.
It’s ok because I have my computer. My computer does not nag or try to change me.
Ol' Marty, back in the day.
That is a good list, but I will say this, to every yin there is a yang.
Those are good general rules, but when dating don’t be discuraged if you don’t click with someone, that just means that is not who you are suppose to click with. I met my husband in graduate school, after thinking I would never marry. I was on the shy side, and he is more outgoing.
On our first date we talked alot about our families. We were both from still married parents, had siblings, and good childhoods. Both ourselves and our families are religious. He was finishing a PhD, but did not brag about his researh, to him that was just “work”. That was a change, because so often men would spend the whole first date bragging about themselves instead of actually talking. He was very gentlemanly, got the door, etc. He was not overgroomed but was put together. (well, for a science guy he was put together).
It just clicked. We met when he was 30 and I was 26. We’ve been together for 10 years, married for 9, have 2 beautiful children and one on the way. I wouldn’t trade him for the world.
So my overall advice is be yourself. If it is meant to be it will.
The odd thing about #9, back when I was single, I had better luck (received more interest from women) when I had either just exercised or performed physical labor. I’m not talking about having a nasty stench, but a slight smell of sweat.
The times I went out straight from the shower, I didn’t have much luck.
A decent list- but for me the Number One way to my heart is to make me laugh. Regularly. I was well into my thirties before I even realized it. Money, stability are good- important, even. But keep me grinning, chuckling, laughing..and I’m apt to overlook much.
I also find a man with true self-respect to be very appealing- and I don’t mean ego or “self esteem” or whatever nonsense they’re trying to ruin kids with now- but real, old-fashioned self-respect.
Don’t interrupt.
Never honk at old people on the road, even when you’re in the right.
Once you learn to fake sincerity, you’ve got it made.
I once said something to a girl which must have been just what she wanted to hear. We were both working at a Summer retreat and lived next to each other.
First of all, she was probably the most attractive girl I have ever known. By attractive, I mean she attracted boys. She was very pretty but I have seen lots of girls who were prettier.
Watching her I was fascinated. I would wonder what is it she does? How does she attract them? One day I drove her to get some things as her car was giving trouble. I was a bit attracted to her myself but my wife had died not long before and I was also a lot older than her so I wasn’t even thinking of a relationship.
I was kidding her about something and not meaning too, insulted her. This made her mad and she showed it.
I looked at her and said something like. “Actually you attract boys like bees to honey. I don’t know what it is or how to define it but whatever it is, you have it”
From then on we were best friends. That fact that I was being both honest and accurate may have been one of the reasons she seemed to like the comment.
#1 - Be Like Laz.
Now the local public library sold baseball caps with the local library name on the front. Alas, the cap has become dilapidated. In it's condition it fits even better. I cannot stand to wear the Englishman's flat cap and will not- it was a present from her.
I still wear it, but some sort of new headgear is in the offing. She winces every time she goes out with me. Sometimes ya just can't win!
Women don’t know what they want...this list is useless.
The only thing they always like is shopping.
bfl
ooooo....#2 bad...not good idea at all....
She gives her “advice” and you don’t take it....
bad, bad, bad...
Just slip out the back Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
Just drop off the key, Lee
Oops, sorry, wrong list.
That’s the list for about a year later
Ooooo, a FUN thread!
My list of preferences:
1. Kindness
2. Intelligence
PHYSICALLY, what seemed to draw me in most is scent.