Posted on 08/30/2010 2:37:01 AM PDT by RogerFGay
A series of high-profile cases of lesbian-perpetrated domestic violence has sent shock-waves through Massachusetts communities in recent months:
1. On February 16, a Suffolk Superior Court jury convicted Nicole Chuminski on two counts of second-degree murder, following a fire that killed the two daughters of her lover Anna Reisopoulos. During a heated argument between the two, Chuminski reportedly fell into a fit of rage. A few hours later Chuminski returned to her partner’s apartment and hurled an acetone-laden firebomb into the front door.
Sophia and Acia, ages 2 and 14, were burned beyond recognition, so dental records were needed for positive identification.
2. On March 29 Annamarie Rintala of Granby, Mass. was found dead by strangulation in the basement of the house she shared with her domestic partner Cara. Cara had been previously charged with domestic violence after she struck Annamarie in the back of the head with a closed fist.
3. Eunice Field of Brockton, Mass. found herself on the losing end of a bitter ménage à trois. So on August 9 she marched to the apartment of Lorraine Wachsman. There she grabbed a serrated knife and stabbed Wachsman in the back and neck. Dispelling any doubt about her intentions, she then penned a note admitting she had killed Waschsman “for taking away the love of my life.”
Ms. Field is now being held without bail pending a September 3 court appearance.
Experts on lesbian domestic violence were shocked, but honestly not surprised by these incidents. Last November a report by the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs reported a 125% increase in domestic violence fatalities in lesbian and gay couples around the country during the prior year. According to Beth Leventhal of The Network/La Red of Boston, “partner abuse in LGBT communities can be just as lethal as that in heterosexual communities.”
Ms. Leventhal’s commentary actually understates the extent of the problem. Earlier this year the UCLA Center for Health Policy Research published the results of a survey of over 51,000 California adults . The UCLA study found 28% of persons in lesbian/gay relationships had experienced intimate partner violence, compared to 17% of persons in heterosexual relationships.
It’s also believed that lesbians are more likely to engage in partner violence than gay men. According to the Boston Gay Men’s Domestic Violence Project, one in three homosexual women experience partner aggression, compared to only one in four homosexual men. Kaitlin Nichols of The Network/La Red notes, “The myth of women’s communities as safe communities has prevented many women from reaching out for support. If they have shared what is happening, they are met with disbelief from their community.”
And why are lesbians more likely to abuse?
According to Nomi Porat, an abuse-prevention expert, the reason is poor limit-setting: “An issue common to women, particularly battered women, is the fear of demanding physical and emotional boundaries. In part, battered lesbians are afraid their lovers will leave or become more violent if any limitations are set in the relationship.”
A nearly impenetrable double wall serves to keep lesbian battering tucked away in the proverbial closet. The first wall is the stigmatization invoked by lesbians themselves who believe in a sort of same-sex utopia, the feminist belief that maintains female-female relationships are inherently more peaceful, gentle, and “pure,” compared to male-female relationships.
In Naming the Violence: Speaking out About Lesbian Battering, Barbara Hart maintains that female batterers should be subjected to a form of shunning by the lesbian community: “one of the consequences of [female batterers’] violence is that they may have to limit any contact with the person they assaulted/abused. This may mean that the batterer cannot attend public gatherings or movement meetings.”
The second wall is the broader domestic violence industry that maintains a cult-like belief in the notion of patriarchal sexism, the theory that men abuse their wives due to an innate and irrepressible urge to oppress women. So every time a woman pummels, rapes, or otherwise abuses her female partner, the patriarchal dominance theory takes a body-blow.
These ideological blinders serve to justify shelters policies that turn away of needy women. According to the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs, the problem of abuse shelters that discriminate on the basis of gender identity is widespread.
Intimate partner aggression is not a problem limited to any particular sex, or gender identity, or economic group. Indeed, research shows women are at least as likely as men to engage in partner abuse.When the Sisterhood gets over its denial of the truth, we’ll stop seeing so many women and men victimized by domestic violence.
My post was in no way meant to show a lack of faith in men. I merely told it the way it is. The majority of men today are shit scared to stand for what they really believe is right because they have been cowed by their wives and society in general to believe in the depiction of them we see daily in the sit coms and here from the likes of the idiots leading the so called “women’s movement”.
I’m a 50’s kid and I will remain a 50’s kid till the day i die, I make the decisions in my home where it concerns money, or large purchases and I do so for the simple reason I am better qualified. There is no equality of decision making nor was there “fairness” in raising the kids. They were taught right from wrong, punished for the wrong and we cared not a wit what their friends were allowed to do. We a,de the rules for the behavior and I enforced them strictly. My wife was the necessary sympathetic figure the kids could run to when they believed I was being so “unfiar”. She wouold NEVER go against what I said but would explain again the reasons for the rules.
They all got jobs when they could and turned over half their check to us, Unbeknownst to them it was invested and when they left the house after college (and belueve me they DID leave after college) they got all the money back.
The problem to day is men refuse or are afraid to be men and women seem to want to be men. Ok but it ain’t a happenin’ in my house.
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Why are women violent? Because they can be.
Man-on-woman violence is completely socially unacceptable, and any degree of it, or even the accusation of it, will land the guy in jail. Guys understand this from an early age.
Woman-on-man violence is accepted. Women are allowed to respond to men who anger them by slapping them, throwing things at them, and otherwise letting out their anger physically. The man is supposed to accept it or retreat.
In woman-woman relationships, women who are used to it being acceptable for a woman to become violently angry with her domestic partner have no constraints.
Some wives try to get the husband mad enough to fight back. That looks good in a divorce. I know my ex wife tried very hard to trap me. I realized her plan and didn’t take the bait. A man has no legal means of defense when a wife won’t close her mouth.
most young men in their 20’s and those college students are nothing but pansies I just hope my daughter when she grows up will be able to find a man and not some girlie man like many are at college.
I swear these college men are nothing but fairies, have big mouths but cannot have fight to to save their lives.
I’ve been doing boxing since a kid and now coach it . The amount of fairies I see coming into the gym is amazing, they care more about how their hair is or how big their chest is but will not take a punch.
tlb probably won’t respond as they make one post, pro-homosexual, on a thread and leave. It keeps them from getting banned for pushing the agenda.
Yikes, Dyke Mullets!!
Not good over breakfast!!
No WE are responsible. WE let it happen and it’s time to stand and say ENOUGH! I personally have always taken a stand within my own family. I am in charge, I have ALWAYS been in charge and my wife of over 40 yrs has no problems with that. We understand each other, the relative strengths and weaknesses of ourselves and the other. She never asks me to help her pick out drapes and wall paper and I never ask her to pick a stock, mutual fund or any other investment.
If people simply would stay within themselves, do what they do best and not try to be something they are not, things would work out for the best.
No WE are responsible. WE let it happen and it’s time to stand and say ENOUGH! I personally have always taken a stand within my own family. I am in charge, I have ALWAYS been in charge and my wife of over 40 yrs has no problems with that. We understand each other, the relative strengths and weaknesses of ourselves and the other. She never asks me to help her pick out drapes and wall paper and I never ask her to pick a stock, mutual fund or any other investment.
If people simply would stay within themselves, do what they do best and not try to be something they are not, things would work out for the best.
Exactly, and that is because they never had to. They have been "protected" the whole of their sorry assed lives.
I have to ask. My Hubby of 40 years is very verbal about his likes and dislikes. If I pick something he doesn't like I hear "I'm not paying for that".
Please in no way take offense, I just think guys are great.
You are totally right, men have been neutered.
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I haven’t had to do that yet. Would I? Sure I would. She can pick out what she wants but it doesn’t mean I HAVE to like it. It’s just that the decision is hers to make in that area as the decision is mine to make in the other areas.
It is happening all over but perhaps we are beginning to see a bit of a change. Maybe the “sleeping giant” of American values and sense of right and wrong and just plain fairness is ready for a comeback.
One can hope and pray.
Not in my house. We go shopping together. If he doesn’t like what I pick, I have to find something else. lol
I’m hoping alright.
Not surprising. One (or more) in a homosexual male couple is a wuss who is femininized while one or more in a homosexual female couple wants to act butch.
We fundamentally agree, Mr. B. I believe that morality and ethics are taught, personally. If a child is raised in a home that espouses wife beating or drug abuse, that child will likely grow up to be a wife beater or a drug addict. My father was an alcoholic, and I saw that a lot as a child. I too am an alcoholic, but I’ve taken the steps to keep myself away from booze and other mind-altering substances. Aversion to alcohol was learned through experience and research, it was not ingrained.
More specifically to your point, however, I do agree that it is hardwired in us to search for the opposite sex as a way to propagate the species. I’m of the mindset that homosexuality is a learned behavior and a lifestyle choice not genetically coded in our DNA.
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