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We Need to Have Empathy for Tea Partiers
http://www.psychologytoday.com ^ | by Michael Bader, D.M.H.

Posted on 03/05/2010 12:05:55 PM PST by Maelstorm

Edited on 03/05/2010 12:08:24 PM PST by Admin Moderator. [history]

These tea-party folks seem to most liberals-well, to most of us who live in the "reality community," or, as I like to call it, "reality"-like crazy [expletive deleted by Mod].

As a recent NY Times article reports, this hodgepodge of people and groups spout frankly paranoid beliefs as received wisdom, e.g. the Federal Reserve is our enemy and should be abolished, citizens should stock up on ammo, gold, and survival food in anticipation of an impending Civil War, states should "nullify" federal laws and even secede, medical records are being shipped to federal bureaucrats, the Army is seeking "Internment/Resettlement" specialists, Obama is trying to create crises in order to destroy the economy, convert Interpol into his personal police force, and create a New World Order. Conspiracy theories involving shadowy elites like the Trilateral Commission and the Council on Foreign Relations have resurfaced. Self-defense and armed resistance are frequently called for. Racist stereotypes, innuendo, and hostility run rampant. The Constitution is its sacred text and Glenn Beck its most beloved prophet. They don't usually wear aluminum hats but perhaps they should.

I hate these folks but I also understand them. And, well, uh, I also empathize with them. They share the same psychology as the paranoid patients I treat every day. The only difference is that the paranoid beliefs of the tea-party movement are political while those in my consulting room are of a more personal nature.

The causes and dynamics, however, are the same. And so just as I have empathy for my patients, I have come to have empathy for the tea-party'ers, even as I despise their influence and work hard to defeat their ideology. It's crucial that progressives do likewise because if we don't understand the ways that decent, god-fearing, and victimized people can come to espouse such a dangerous ideology, we won't be able to fight them effectively.

I treat people who are paranoid all the time. Sometimes they're only mildly paranoid. For example, someone I treat can't tolerate blame of any kind, can't take any responsibility for failures, and can't really be optimistic about the potential goodness in others. It's always someone else's fault. Other times, they're more severely paranoid. A patient I saw spun tale after tale of slights, interpreted innocuous events as malignant, saw conspiracies everywhere, and always imputed malevolence to others' motives. The most extreme cases can be found in the delusions of schizophrenics.

There isn't one cause of paranoia. Tomes have been written about it. Individual variations and exceptions abound. A few generalizations, however, can be made. Paranoid people are trying their best to make sense of and mitigate feelings of helplessness and worthlessness. Their beliefs are attempts to solve a profound problem, albeit in ways that distort reality.

People can't tolerate feeling helpless and self-hating for very long. It's too painful. It's too demoralizing, too frightening. They have to find an antidote. They have to make sense of it all in a way that restores their sense of meaning, their feeling of agency, their self-esteem, and their belief in the possibility of redemption. They have to. They have no choice. That's just the way the mind works.

The paranoid strategy is to generate a narrative that finally "explains it all." A narrative-a set of beliefs about the way the world is and is supposed to be--helps make sense of chaos. It reduces guilt and self-blame by projecting it onto someone else. And it restores a sense of agency by offering up an enemy to fight. Finally, it offers hope that if "they"-the enemy, the conspirators--can be avoided or destroyed, the paranoid person's core feelings of helplessness and devaluation will go away.

Take an extreme case. Someone I saw years ago had a paranoid delusion that orbiting satellites were trying to control his mind. He went to great lengths to insulate his apartment so as to repel these psychic assaults. When I got to know him better, I discovered that he developed this delusion as a way to make sense of an on-going but terrifying experience--the genesis of which lay in his childhood--that he wasn't a separate person and didn't have the right to his own thoughts. This terrifying feeling of helpless vulnerability was rendered comprehensible to him by his delusion about orbiting satellites. In a paradoxical way, his delusion reduced his terror even as it generated its own fears and dangers.

Another patient I saw had a daughter who was mentally retarded. When the daughter's disability was discovered, he felt so helpless and guilty (normal feelings that were exaggerated by experiences from his own childhood) that he slowly developed the belief that the daughter had been the unwitting victim of sexual abuse by relatives, that this abuse had led to various cognitive arrests, and that treatment for the abuse could and would restore her to normalcy. In this way, he negated his guilt, and momentarily overcame his helplessness through a heroic search for a therapeutic "cure."

While extreme cases, these vignettes illustrate the core truth about paranoia, namely, that it is an attempt to lessen unbearable feelings of self-blame and powerlessness. In this special sense, psychotherapists understand paranoid beliefs as attempts at adaptation and self-healing, even as these beliefs compromise the ability to test reality and invariably create suffering of their own.

Paranoid beliefs about Obama and the government promulgated by the ultra-right have a similar genesis and meaning. In the Times story about the tea-party movement, the writer describes how most tea-party activists are not loyal Republicans. "They are frequently political neophytes," he writes, "who prize independence and tell strikingly similar stories of having been awakened by the recession. Their families upended by lost jobs, foreclosed homes and depleted retirement funds, they said they wanted to know why it happened and whom to blame."

They began listening to Beck, reading the Federalist Papers, books by Ayn Rand and George Orwell, and started visiting radical right wing websites. The Times writer then makes a crucial observation: "Many describe emerging from their research as if reborn to a new reality." In other words, like my patients, the tea party folks find in their paranoid views about politics a narrative that "explains it all," that reduces their sense of helpless confusion, and that channels their feelings of victimization into ones of self-righteous militancy. They go from passive victim to active agent, from guilty to innocent, but all at the price of distorting reality into one full of malevolent conspiracies.

The payoff is that they are no longer confused. They are reborn and now, thankfully, have the "answer." And that answer is that big forces are hurting and enslaving them.

And while these forces include the banks and large corporations, the main culprit is, of course, the government. People don't have a direct and immediate experience of Goldman Sachs. The do, however, experience government every day, not only on television news shows, but via laws, taxes, public services (or the lack thereof), law enforcement, etc.

Lots of people feel guilty and helpless, of course, and most don't become paranoid. Some become simply depressed or resigned, others turn to strategies of distraction or addictive self-medication. Others might face their feelings more directly, tolerate them, and find alternative solutions, e.g. turn to friends, therapists, or various communities of support. Still others may find relief for painful feelings by projecting all meaning and agency onto God. And some simply fight back against "reality," despite long odds. The psychological reasons that one person turns to paranoia and another seeks a healthier solution are not generally known.

It is also obvious that left wing conspiracy theorists share much of the same pathology as those on the right wing of the spectrum.

For new tea-party members, however, the drift toward paranoia is facilitated by the right-wing media machine that offers several ready-made narratives perfectly designed to help its consumers clear up their confusion, understand their helplessness, absolve them of any blame, and offer a way out. The conspiratorial alliance of business and government, a growing tyranny intended to disenfranchise, disarm, and exploit ordinary citizens, secret pacts to overthrow the constitution, etc. all currently led by an un-American, godless, colored, elitist, contemptuous, foreigner--Barack Hussein Obama. A grim and frightening picture of the world to be sure.

Psychologically speaking, however, it offers relief from helplessness and a sense that things are falling apart. It offers a sense of cohesion and identity based on certainty, a commonality of interests, innocence, and even martyrdom. While the world of the tea-party'ers is filled with danger, it is a danger mitigated by moral certainty, clarity of purpose, and a definable external enemy.

The "problem," then, is not the paranoid story line but the anxiety, helplessness, and pain that generate it. And that pain is not irrational or crazy. It's real. We all feel it. Most of us do feel helpless in relation to the most important aspects of our lives, from the nature of our work to its security, from our politicians who are on the corporate dole to those perpetuating gridlock through their narrow ideology, from the quality of our health care to its availability, and from the isolation and loneliness of everyday social life.

The pain of self-blaming is also ubiquitous in the cultural assumption that our lot in life is determined primarily by individual ability, not by getting help from others. Confusion, anxiety, disconnectedness, and a sense that "things are falling apart" are not crazy feelings. They are accurate and valid responses to a highly alienated and often abusive social world.

The "problem" is that tea-party activists move from legitimate feelings and normal longings to paranoid political positions that are dangerous and cruel. But because these positions serve an important psychological function, because they resolve an emotional dilemma, they can't be changed by rational argument. I have never been able to help a paranoid patient even a little bit by arguing with his or her view of reality. Not one bit. The only way I have been able to make any headway is use our relationship to provide real experiences that have a shot at providing an alternative and more satisfying "solution" to their underlying fears. Only then can I begin to offer a counter-narrative, one that acknowledges their pain and innocence, but enables them to more accurately identify its sources and, therefore, its antidote.

Perhaps the progressive movement shouldn't waste its time dealing with the tea-party movement except as a spur to get our own house-and movement-in order. A legitimate argument can be made that these people are, simply, the enemy and that our challenge is to build progressive majorities immune to their sabotage and interference. But I would argue that to the extent we want to reach people who are drawn to tea-party, patriot, libertarian, and other right wing movements but are not yet hard-line ideologues, or prevent others from becoming so, we have to begin with empathy. We have to get inside their heads, figure out how their choices are reasonable from their point of view.

It would help if we found ways to get into relationship with them, to demonstrate a genuine curiosity not about their paranoid theories but about the underlying pain and fear that is the source of them. In this way, perhaps we can figure out how to speak to that pain and fear in ways that are both authentic and comforting. Perhaps we can figure out what experiences they might need to have in order to feel safe enough to at least listen to another narrative-ours.


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Editorial; Politics/Elections
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To: Maelstorm

“the Federal Reserve is our enemy and should be abolished, citizens should stock up on ammo, gold, and survival food in anticipation of an impending Civil War, states should “nullify” federal laws and even secede, medical records are being shipped to federal bureaucrats, the Army is seeking “Internment/Resettlement” specialists, Obama is trying to create crises in order to destroy the economy, convert Interpol into his personal police force, and create a New World Order. Conspiracy theories involving shadowy elites like the Trilateral Commission and the Council on Foreign Relations have resurfaced.”

There are many on this very forum who, for one reason or another, feel that if you believe any of the above *theories* you are either tragically uninformed or an imbecile.

Wonder if they realize how much like the good Doctor they are?


61 posted on 03/05/2010 12:54:10 PM PST by wolfcreek (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Lsd7DGqVSIc)
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To: spodefly
RE: "Bader was also a founder of the Institute for Change, a progressive think-tank focused on leadership development and currently associated with the Service Employees International Union."

spodefly, where did you get this information from? Do you have a link?

62 posted on 03/05/2010 12:54:53 PM PST by ETL (ALL (most?) of the Obama-commie connections at my FR Home page: http://www.freerepublic.com/~etl/)
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To: Maelstorm
"a spur to get our own house-and movement-in order

Take a laxative a VERY large dose!

63 posted on 03/05/2010 12:55:07 PM PST by I am Richard Brandon
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To: kcvl

How’d I know this nut was a homosexuality enabler?

This guy gives me the willies just looking at him.


64 posted on 03/05/2010 12:56:20 PM PST by ConservativeWarrior (In last year's nests, there are no birds this year.)
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To: ETL
"Just more paranoid conspiracy-mongering from the racist Right...." is what they would say, while refusing to address the veracity of your well-documented citations, before moving on to accuse you of questionable motives and associations.

That's why it's useless to argue with these people: they already know everything and refuse to question any of it. When you calmly challenge them on the facts, they interpret it as a personal attack and often lash out in anger. Hmmmmm; don't psychiatrists have a term for that?

65 posted on 03/05/2010 12:56:40 PM PST by andy58-in-nh (America does not need to be organized: it needs to be liberated.)
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To: avacado

This guy needs professional help — physician heal thyself.


66 posted on 03/05/2010 12:57:16 PM PST by No Truce With Kings (The opinions expressed are mine! Mine! MINE! All Mine!)
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To: Maelstorm
"The "problem" is that tea-party activists move from legitimate feelings and normal longings to paranoid political positions that are dangerous and cruel."

Nope! Not even close!

The problem is that you have made up your mind before studying the facts. You have attempted to fit what you think are the facts to your standard template. Your biggest problem will come for you about the 4th of November - and you won't be able to ignore it. In the meantime, please enjoy the music while we attempt to connect you with reality.

67 posted on 03/05/2010 1:01:13 PM PST by I am Richard Brandon
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To: Maelstorm
My response on the Psychology Today website:

Paranoia and projection are clearly the hallmarks of Michael Bader's personal pathology. His paranoia is apparent when he sees people whom he opposes politically as "crazy f**kers" (He is gratuitously foul-mouthed as well. And using the word "f**ker" as a pejorative! Someone could write a doctoral thesis on this poor man's hatred/sexuality issues). Often, paranoids see themselves surrounded by those who are against them or trying to ruin their lives. Michael sees all those whom he personally opposes as both pathetically stupid and emotionally stunted, revealing his own clear narcissistic tendencies as well. Wow. Who is his therapist? Barack Obama?

Of course, finding patients for psychoanalysis in San Francisco is as easy as finding sand on a beach. When the market is so huge, one can expect to find plenty of bottomfeeders like Michael who slake their own psychological needs by projecting their illness onto others.

Having seen plenty of Tea Party media coverage, I have yet to view an event where the attendants were uniformly angry or bitter. They seldom resort to the F word as Michael does in his first sentence! In fact, most of the time these folks seem to be enjoying themselves often joking and laughing with each other.

This article reveals much more about the sad mental state of the writer than is does regarding Tea Partiers in general. Frankly, I would trust any one of them chosen at random to babysit my children over this apoplectically vituperative and self-consciously "progressive" stereotype, Michael Bader.

69 posted on 03/05/2010 1:02:47 PM PST by Dr. Thorne (Buy Gold and Guns Now!)
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To: wolf24

From his Stalinist approach to the Tea Partiers, he probably sees 1984 as a guidebook, not a cautionary tale.


70 posted on 03/05/2010 1:03:01 PM PST by dirtboy
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To: Maelstorm

Michael Bader, D.M.H. is a condescending little Pr!ck.


71 posted on 03/05/2010 1:06:07 PM PST by subterfuge (BUILD MORE NUCLEAR POWER PLANTS NOW!!!)
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To: Dr. Thorne

Well played, you bitter clinger! :)


72 posted on 03/05/2010 1:07:09 PM PST by thecabal (Destroy Progressivism)
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To: Maelstorm

I have to wonder if this is part of the big counter-attack on the Tea Party that Bile Clinton talked about starting recently...


73 posted on 03/05/2010 1:09:48 PM PST by Paytriot (Never be afraid to try anything new, Remember amateurs built the Ark, professionals built the Titani)
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To: thecabal
Apparently, posting your condescending hatred for your patients on the Internet is considered acceptable behavior in this community of “doctors”.

Imagine how empowered wackadoodles like him will feel if Barama gets his government takeover of healthcare through?

75 posted on 03/05/2010 1:13:14 PM PST by subterfuge (BUILD MORE NUCLEAR POWER PLANTS NOW!!!)
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To: thecabal

I was holding my Bible and gun when I wrote it.


76 posted on 03/05/2010 1:17:41 PM PST by Dr. Thorne (Buy Gold and Guns Now!)
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To: andy58-in-nh

Or, in many case, the person knows full well that what you say is a fact but lies and denies to cover for it because they are secretly of the same ideology themselves. Someone here posted that this doctor was a founder of a radical “progressive” think-tank known as the “Institute For Change”. “Change” is of course commie speak for Marxist transformation.


77 posted on 03/05/2010 1:18:34 PM PST by ETL (ALL (most?) of the Obama-commie connections at my FR Home page: http://www.freerepublic.com/~etl/)
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To: Dr. Thorne

Very well said.


78 posted on 03/05/2010 1:23:25 PM PST by subterfuge (BUILD MORE NUCLEAR POWER PLANTS NOW!!!)
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To: LoneRangerMassachusetts
My parents sent me to a psychologist when I was a teen.

I learned he committed suicide a few years later.

I like to think the two events are unrelated.

79 posted on 03/05/2010 1:29:46 PM PST by Trailerpark Badass (One good thing about music, when it hits you feel no pain.)
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To: outofstyle

Michael Bader

Asst Dir, Inst For Change
Service Employees

2006 Salary Breakdown

$ 71,368 Administrative (100%)
$ 0 Contributions (0%)
$ 0 General Overhead (0%)
$ 0 Political (0%)
$ 0 Representational (0%)

$ 71,368 Total Earnings
Historical Salary Information
Year Salary % Raise Title
2006 $ 71,368 — Asst Dir, Inst For Change


80 posted on 03/05/2010 1:31:18 PM PST by kcvl
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