I've never once got on the path to getting anywhere romantically with a woman by treating her as “special”. As soon as you start treating most of them as such, being “friended” is always days or hours away.
I'm a nice guy to nice people. Many women say very successful, intelligent and above average looking. But the fact that I have trouble treating “special” or intelligent women the same as I treat trash gets me nowhere with a woman I actually like as a person.
One of my former coworkers is a successful researcher and body builder(looks like a ripped Calvin Klein model) with degrees from Harvard and Colombia. BUT, he's an EXTREMELY nice guy and can never insult or use a woman. As a result, he hasn't gotten anywhere beyond a first date in at least 5 years. He's in his late 20s and never having a girlfriend always torments him.
Men simply do what works. Women let them
I have,it took 41 years of living to find her but it was worth every minute. Never sacrifice your morals , your manners or yourself.
Having observed the ‘dating scene’ for a (very) long time - you’re observation is painfully true. It was true 20 years ago and it is even more true today - if you don’t ‘abuse’ them and it doesn’t have to be physical - you not only ‘lose’ them - more often than not - you’re immediately ‘sidelined’.
Glad, not to be part of that - unfortunate for decent young men today. And, it isn’t only true in the US - the UK provides plenty of evidence of similar cases.
Too true. Women go on and on and on about the sensitive qualities they want in a man, and then go home with the most obnoxious meathead in the bar. I am so glad I've been married to a good woman for 20 years and no longer have to play those mind games with foolish girls.
Just have high energy, be stimulating, be sexy and above all ensure they are having fun and laughing. Sometimes taking them out of their comfort zone doing something scary is fun for them.
Like hiking and then going off trail(you better know what you are doing and can get back but, be confident) Caves are fun too.
Ski/snowboard.
Take them interesting places and be interesting.
bungee jump, sky diving, be creative with getting their hearbeat going. They love it.
Don’t be overly solicitous. Be a man.
Take them to the gun range. They will tell you they hate guns but truth is, they love the power and the boom.
I agree with Kakaze, and I disagree with varyouga, although I have heard his story many times. It really is not true. If you believe you only find women who do not want to be treated well, you must be looking in the wrong places. I assure you that most women, and all the Christian women I know, want men who treat them with respect and respond in kind.
And if you have a relationship with someone who does not want to be treated well, then what kind of sick relationship would that be? People like the jerk in this article don’t have relationships. They have sexual encounters like animals. It’s sick. They are sad specimens indeed, and I feel very sorry for them.
I’ve never once got on the path to getting anywhere romantically with a woman by treating her as “special”.
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I am guessing that you and the friend you mention are “unsuccessful” because of the women you target. Men often have a problem of basing their choices mainly on looks — it’s biological, I know — so if she looks good she must be good. The flashy big-breasted, big-haired girl is often not the big-hearted girl.