Spare the rod, spoil the child.
It is a good idea to tell them what action(s) resulted in the discipline too. Otherwise they’ll just think they got a whoopin’ because Mommy/Daddy was in a bad mood/doesn’t like them/or is just likes tanning their hyde for no good reason.
If you are angry when you use the rod of chastisement, you’re doing it wrong...
cool off, calmly explain why they are being punished, and then chastise as appropriate.
It is a good idea to tell them what action(s) resulted in the discipline too.
Exactly. Fanning the behind merely because a child made a mistake is child abuse. Fanning the behind over obvious misbehaviour is not. Too many parents don't know the difference.
And I emphasise fanning the behind. The minute a parent picks up a weapon, any weapon, other than their hand, that parent's guilty of child abuse.