Posted on 09/08/2009 4:47:10 AM PDT by Kaslin
Every time I write about how the modern culture seems dead-set on destroying the confidence of America's little boys, I am swamped with e-mail. It seems that everyone with a son or grandson has a story to tell about how manhood and chivalry are under attack. Last week I heard from a dad, Bill, who echoes the sentiments of many: "The boys are getting emasculated and wimpy/passive as they're now intimidated by girls due to fear of sex harassment charges and pro-female/anti male societal/educational tilts."
Sadly, he's right. As a mom of two sons and a youth leader I have seen how boys cringe when television shows depict boys as crude and stupid while the girls are always smart and powerful. I've experienced their confusion when girls snub them for opening the door. One day I observed the pained looks on the faces of male highschool students when a teacher explained that a major assignment would be to watch a movie of their choice and write a paper on how women in the film are discriminated against.
The attacks on our boys are endless and very purposeful: if they are taught to be nothing more than crude dolts then they will become emasculated men who keep to themselves. And the women will end up wearing the pants.
I've also observed on countless occasions a minor, but powerful, display of how ours is quickly becoming a culture where men are having trouble being men: females struggling alone to lift a heavy suitcase into the overhead compartment on a plane all the while surrounded by men who pretend they don't see.
My reader, Bill, also said:
"The feminists that sold us on there being no discernable difference between men and women except their plumbing have done an immeasurable disservice to women, the family, and hence society."
I would add that this trend toward emasculation is also destroying the dignity and potential of countless young boys.
Decide to raise your sons to be gentlemen - that means teaching them to be both courageous and considerate. To create young men of valor, you have to spend a significant amount of time deprogramming them of the lies the culture bombards them with at every turn. Talk about the raunchy scenes in TV shows, commercials and music that depict males as irrelevant or disposable. Or better yet, filter out those messages altogether.
If you are a dad or the primary male in the life of a boy, the most effective method to ensure that he becomes a man of dignity is to consciously model the behavior for him. If you are a mom with no positive adult male to help you raise your son, find one.
Seek out great organizations like the Boy Scouts or find a church family that will help you. In the meantime, develop a habit of reading stories of brave, kind men so they can imagine themselves becoming that way too. One great resource for books, tapes and movies to help you raise boys you can be proud of is www.VisionForum.com.
America really needs more than just a few good men - help your son be one of them.
I've noticed in other environments, that when one is the only man in a group of women, that when one woman has an issue with the man, then ALL the women gang up on the man.
You have done good with both your children to teach them to
be responsible and kind citizens! I commend you!
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That went with a movie that I’ve managed to never see.
Silent Running ?
Instead of expecting the guys to read your mind, try taking it in the spirit it's offered - which is usually admiration.
Getting huffy over an intended compliment is rather silly, don't you think ?
The irony of the left is overwhelming.
Bingo !
Bump and ping-to-self to read.
A few related articles:
http://www.city-journal.org/html/16_3_schools_boys.html
http://www.leaderu.com/orgs/probe/docs/fem-schools.html
I know of several women who are regularly bailing out or ensuring their sons complete rehab. When I mention the Army turned my life around they tell me their boys wanted to enlist but they talked them out of it because they didn’t want them to get hurt.
***the proliferation of behavior modifying drugs (Ritalin, Prozac, etc.)which are being prescribed overwhelmingly to young boys**
That, among countless other reasons, is why WE HOMESCHOOLED.
If my son was unteachable because of the wiggles, he had to run laps around our large piece of land to calm him down.
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We all tend to paint with a broad brush. That’s how we got to this sad state of affairs. Each situation is unique. It depends on the mother and the son. I can’t begin to tell you how many people told me I would raise a “sissy,” and that was before my divorce. After my divorce, I was left to raise a 5 year-old son. I’m sure those who prophesied over him at birth, REALLY thought his fate was sealed. It turns out that I did have a rough patch with him, but his father stepped up and drew the line in the sand. As it turned out, after a decade of neglect by his father, I still had the final say. It is still my advice he seeks. It is still me who he wants to be at his side as he takes his oath and is commissioned as a US Marine Officer. He always jokes that no staff sgt. could be tougher than I am. I love my Marines, but my standards are higher yet and he knows I will make an angry staff sergeant look like a daisy off a daisy chain if he gets it wrong — although I don’t yell. I just can’t stand all the yelling — such a headache! Don’t paint all children with the same brush or mothers either. It’s always been up to mothers to guide their children through the pitfalls of life (and every now and then we can use a 6’2” back-up to make sure the dunce pays attention). ;-) I’d have rather done it with my husband (because he missed so much of the kid’s life and it just can’t be made up), but did I NEED him to do it — No. I WANTED him to do it because I love them both so much and want the best for them.
We all see things through the lenses of our own perception. You think girl-pants are gay, and by the name they certainly sound effeminate. The truth however is that there have been warrior classes that wore what we could consider even more feminine. Bad-assed European men at one time wore tunics over stockings.
I think you've come very close to the actual goal of this plan. And probably like you, I have no doubts whatsoever it is part of a larger plan. The destruction of the family unit will invariably lead to the destruction of the culture, which would appear to be the end game. The male WASP can be a nasty adversary in his element. He must be neutered if our would-be masters are to have their way with us - to turn a phrase. Well done!
The family is the primary “vehicle” through which the knowledge and reverence of God is passed from generation to generation. It only takes a break of one generation to lose that connection.
We’d have to wait for another Josiah and a temple remodel in order to re-discover “the law”.
Kas, this is what I was fussing @ my hubby about today. He asked me to pick up some deodorant for him. I ran into a bit of trouble, there are 999 kinds/ types/ fragrances for men’s deodorant. Men should hunt/ kill @ least twice a year and I guarantee you there will be only a dozen deodorants, two types, sweaty and Xsweaty. A few fragrances Eau de grarage, Eau de hunting in the morning, Eau de football game. Needless to say I did not get what he usually uses, thankfully we have a teen who doesn’t care. When men smell as sweet as women, we have a problem.
Excellent idea. Very fortunate young men.
Indeed, passing the torch of reverence for God and Biblical principles is the ONLY way a society/culture can survive long term. Without this moral anchor the culture begins to sway in the breeze and ends up ultimately going whichever way the wind blows. It goes without saying, our would-be masters are keenly aware of this. D'evil and his minions are nothing if not tenacious in their efforts to bring about their brand of "change".
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