It is not the fault of the adopted child to to want to know where she came from. For some adopted kids it is an obsession.
This woman should have had therapy to deal with this and stop rejecting the daughter. She is an innocent now as she was 30 years ago. Social workers should help them both come to an understanding and parting.
By what right does the government have the authority to impose its values on the mother?
Thank you so much. I agree totally.
Bingo! Except, these days, the therapist would probably help her with the lawsuit. Adoption is evil to these people. Abortion, on the other hand, is a great problem-solver and makes all the bad stuff go right away.
There are drugs for that.
This woman should have had therapy to deal with this and stop rejecting the daughter.
My aren't we the busybody.
Social workers should help them both come to an understanding and parting.
The social workers should have the living crap kicked out of them.
So much for privacy and freedom. Give them state sponsored therapy. Why are you on this site?
Some things are too intensely personal for anyone to cavalierly decide what others should or shouldn't do.
Rule #1 of civilized behavior: NEVER offer advice unless it is requested.
Even Plato and Aristotle had rational ruminations about the ethical and moral treatment of innocent and more innocent persons.
The mother had every right to expect to live her life without the reminder of the trauma.
Sometimes doors just need to stay closed. It is not up to this woman to meet the child’s needs. She birthed the child and gave it up.
I disagree. Until both parties agree to the reconciliation, then the status quo must remain in place.
Are you for real? What part of “freedom” do you not understand?
Just finished reading the whole story...I’ve got to side with the birth mother. The adoptee wouldn’t stop attempting to contact her and had contacted one of her other children. DYFS was wrong to release that information without consent and the adoptee was/is wrong to not honor the birth mother’s wishes and leave her alone.
The adoptee is absolutely innocent of the initial rape—however, in a sense, she continues to perpetrate it because her birth mother is saying “no” and she isn’t stopping. Had she left it alone initially this might be a completely different story now.
This woman should have had therapy to deal with this and stop rejecting the daughter. She is an innocent now as she was 30 years ago. Social workers should help them both come to an understanding and parting...
Are you able to dress yourself and hold a job? Did you think before you posted that?
Nobody is faulting the child for wanting to know who their parents are. The state is being faulted for indulging the wish.
It's not your place to decide what the mother "should" do.
Life is not a BONANZA episode, with clear cut issues and an embrace at the end of 60 minutes. Life is only like that on TV.
That's too bad. The kid needs to get over it and leave the nice lady who gave her up (and allowed her to have a healthy life) alone.
As weird as it sounds, "Knowing your parents" is not a right. If it's not "life, liberty, or property" you don't have a "right" to it.