What does it matter.
The fact is that marriage in the USA have regressed to a business affair not a romantic one?
Have you ever been divorced?
Have your wife slap a no fault divorce on you and see just how fast your lose 70% of all your life’s work.... then you can get back to me.
I’ve never been divorced and I never will be. I am sympathetic. The courts are wrongly biased and the attorneys seem to have an incentive to make it as terrible as possible.
I disagree with your “fact”. My marriage is a wonderful, romantic experience. At the same time I’ve seen some of what you are talking about, but also a recognition that things need to be better and some very positive change in that direction - making marriages better.
Having seen divorce firsthand I’d say there are no winners. I am sorry about your situation.
Most men I know, who have gone through divorce, have suffered financially as well as emotionally. Same has happened to women I know.
My oldest brother lost everything he worked so hard for...he got royally screwed. To this day, 20+ years later, he’s still supporting his ex financially with alimony (and he ain’t rich, he was a teacher), health care, prescription card, and life insurance. His kids are in their late 30s, early 40s. He’s still paying all of the above and until they reached 18, he also paid child support even though they lived with him.
He’s bitter but refuses to see how some of it was his own fault (or maybe he does and that just makes it worse). He didn’t fight it.
Men and women suffer from divorce and if there are kids involved they suffer the worst.