I’ve never been divorced and I never will be. I am sympathetic. The courts are wrongly biased and the attorneys seem to have an incentive to make it as terrible as possible.
I disagree with your “fact”. My marriage is a wonderful, romantic experience. At the same time I’ve seen some of what you are talking about, but also a recognition that things need to be better and some very positive change in that direction - making marriages better.
Having seen divorce firsthand I’d say there are no winners. I am sorry about your situation.
Congrats on your marriage.
Mine is great as well.
But Kudos on your understanding of the real situation.