‘Hooking Up’ Is Nothing New (Worried parents of commitment-phobe coeds, take comfort)

Pajamas Media ^ | Dec 27,2008 | Katherine Berry

[Maelstorm]

“But if there’s one benefit to all of the hooking up they’ve been doing in college, it’s that they’ll have a better idea of the type of person they do want to settle down with since they will have tried out so many other types. Also, for all of their experience, they’ll probably be pretty darn good in bed.”

I’m sorry to say but this kind of thing just makes it harder to be ever satisfied.

[wastedyears]

Hooking up? What’s that?

Yes, I have been living under a rock for the last 23 years.

[Mr. Silverback]

Bump for later reading.

[autumnraine]

Having string free sex and going on about your merry way. Not just for the hound dog boys anymore.

[TFMcGuire]

Yes. And in addition to the benefits you mentioned, your friend’s daughter might be able to make thousands in a Valtrex commercial.

Just a matter of time....

[TwelveOfTwenty]

Here's an interesting take on this "sexual freedom" from an MRA, of all people.

[KC_Conspirator]

How do I describe this? There is the polite way - Friends with “benefits” or there is the crass way, “f***buddies”.

[wastedyears]

I don’t know, I’ve never bothered with any of that stuff. Ever

[LongTimeMILurker]

What I’ve observed for a long time is that the people who dated a lot of people in high school continue to do so at the expense of marriages and long term relationships. They always seem to find somebody new. Kind of like Hollywood. And I always think there was a lot of hooking up. I think they used to call them one night stands. There’s nothing new under the Sun. It partly has to do with opportunity.

[Mr. Silverback]

Given the number of STDs out there, the likelihood of abortion if a pregnancy results from a tryst with a guy who isn’t even a boyfriend and the emotional baggage one brings into a marriage from past sexual partners, I’m not comforted by this information at all.

[randog]

“f***buddies”

Oh, OK.

[Salgak]

Also referred to as “friends with benefits”. . . .

[trek]

So now the straight people behave like homosexuals. Isn't that special.

No need for gay marriage, the straight kind has been homosexualized.

[Hulka]

Yeah, agree.

Using the “logic” in that statement from the article, a hooker has the best odds of finding a mate, as she “tried out so many other types.”

[ClearCase_guy]

Spending four years in casual relationships that are intimate but yet not really intimate, relationships that are transient and just expected to have a nebulous, finite duration ... expected to drift into nothingness at some point ... I find it very hard to believe that this won't result in an increase in our already staggeringly high divorce rates.

People need to figure out that the dominant social patterns (the "everybody's doing it" concepts) are ALL geared toward hurting society. Drugs, divorce, casual sex, homosexuality, porn, whatever. Civilization is under assault and saying "tish, tish it's always been this way" is a good way to show people that you've bought into the lie.

[freekitty]

LOL Apparently I have too. I haven’t the foggiest notion what it is.

[Dawn531]

A slight variation of your “crass” term actually is the term the college kids use. Check out urbandictionary.com.

[Uncle Hal]

Gee, young people having sex. How unusual.

[Clemenza]

Neither is "swinging" although it merely trickled down to other classes of people as mass affluence reached the west.

"Hooking up" is not something to be taken lightly. I am the farthest thing from a churchman, but the consequences of disease (you can still get HPV even with condoms) and unwanted pregnancy are not a laughing matter.