Posted on 12/23/2008 12:09:15 AM PST by goldstategop
Well, I had a great husband. We were a good match, and used to love to tease each other. Anything silly thing to get involved, play, mess around, cuddle, &etc &etc. He didn’t seem to mind to help but I DID make it worth his while.
I do, but we’re not animals. If your wife doesn’t want to, it’s not “making love” just humping. I wouldn’t insult my wife by humping her.
Last night when I got home from work my wife wasn't feeling good. She has a condition called fibromyalga. When it's cold, or there is precipitation coming, or it's windy, it really affects her.
She had spent most of the day with a friend that recently had a kidney transplant taking her to the doctor.
Once I got home I fixed dinner, brewed the pitcher of tea, juiced a gallon of fresh fruit juice, and cleaned up the mess.
I didn't do it in hopes of having sex.
I did it because I love her.
Someone who gets it.
Nice to see.
Eeeew.
Glad your husband is apparently happy.
I’m sorry for your loss.
You clearly enjoy the wonderful memories.
Senior moments
"WHERE is my SUNDAY paper", the irate customer calling the newspaper office loudly demanded, wanting to know where her Sunday edition was.
"Ma'am," said the newspaper employee, "today is Saturday. The Sunday paper is not delivered until tomorrow, on Sunday."
There was quite a long pause on the other end of the phone, followed by a ray of recognition as she was heard to mutter,
"Well, shit .. so that's why no one was at church today."
Thank you. One of the greatest things is to see our married children clearly having a wonderful time together....
Son married 18 years to a just terrific wife, daughter married 15 years to a super young man. When you see the kids give each other those “looks” throughout an evening or watch them laugh with each other, it just brings back all the great times Rob and I had.
ping for later
It’s nice to hear - they clearly are modelling their own lives after the good example you set.
It’s tough for these younger ones to find that. Many seem to be jaded and afraid of marriage.
My experience was once you fell in love you couldn’t stop talking about getting married.
I guess I’m not very hip.
1 Corinthians 7:2 But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command.
—Think of a time at work where its super-hectic, and youve got a huge to-do list running in your head. You dont have enough time to get it all done, and everything on your list is important.
But if you are like that day-after-day, then there is something wrong with your approach to work and your buddy is going to stop trying to engage you.
I have the same problem most men have in marriage regarding less lovemaking than I’d like. The flaw that I see in your analogy is treating the husband as a “buddy” from work. To continue with your analogy, I wonder if making love with the husband is even ON many wives’ “list,” and if so, where on that it list it is placed in priority. If it isn’t on the list, the chance of getting it “done” is pretty low. Ask a wife what is on her list on a particular day, and see if having sex makes that list. Then ask the next day, and the next... This is the problem many men, including myself, have. If we don’t even make the list, how is that NOT being rejected? Very few wives have to wonder if their husband would like to have sex on a particular day. They know he WOULD. Failing to make time for him, knowing that it is important, is no different than telling him he just doesn’t matter.
A “personal” relationship that is drudgery indicates that the rest of the relationship is drudgery, too. And it takes both spouses to make changes that result in a better situation for everyone.
The wife who is dutifully “performing” just because a man needs to evacuate his prostate at regular intervals is the wife whose husband can’t understand what was wrong when she leaves him the day the youngest child leaves home. “But everything was just fine!”
you missed the point entirely.
I’m married to a smart man.
I’m trying to explain what it is like for a woman whose mind isn’t engaged.
A woman’s brain has to be involved or things aren’t going anywhere.
A smart man knows how to get her to forget about her list.
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