you missed the point entirely.
I’m married to a smart man.
I’m trying to explain what it is like for a woman whose mind isn’t engaged.
A woman’s brain has to be involved or things aren’t going anywhere.
A smart man knows how to get her to forget about her list.
No, I get that point.
But lots of women make themselves heroes in how much they can juggle, how full they can make their plates —ensuring that their mind is constantly elsewhere. That sounds like ‘not being in the mood’.