You wrote:
“They are either enjoying it, or they are putting up with it for some higher purpose”
It is not an “or” situation. They do enjoy to some extent - of that there can be no doubt. But they also often regret it afterward and wonder why they feel hollow inside. They believe they are doing these things because that is simply the way life is supposed to be. They are mistaken.
“If they feel horrible simply because they are like everyone else, they do need psychiatric help.”
You are completely wrong. The fact that almost every member of a generation of girls is lowering her standards and acting poorly is not a good guide as how to act. By your standards the dissenting German needed “psychiatric help” because he thought beating Jews in the street was horrible, but everyone else was doing it.
“Every single woman my age has had sex. Women younger than me have had sex. None of them wish they were still virgins.”
That’s what they tell you. 1) Maybe you’re just hanging out with women with low standards and little self-respect. With your way of thinking I would not be surprised. 2) I deal with literally hundreds of young women - I’m not kidding - and even the “Brave New World” ones have told me about numerous regrets, mistakes, suicide attempts, cutting, drug use, unwanted pregnancies, miscarriages, STDs, etc. It has gotten to the point that I would rather just not know about all of this. I can’t change what I know, however. I went to McDonald’s for a milk shake and two 19 year olds told me about how both of them had miscarriages the previous year!
“They would even be more devastated and angry if they have not had sex while knowing that everyone else did.”
That’s just BS. First of all, think about it, is sex going to go away, disappear? No, it will still be there if these young women (and men!) are smart enough to wait for marriage. What is lost by waiting until you’re in your 20s? It is already known - read the books I listed and you’ll know it too - that teens and young women are rarely ready for sex or its consequences.
I deal with the wreckage of those consequences EVERY DAY.
It is not an or situation. They do enjoy to some extent - of that there can be no doubt. But they also often regret it afterward and wonder why they feel hollow inside. They believe they are doing these things because that is simply the way life is supposed to be. They are mistaken.Why should they regret measuring up to other people?
The fact that almost every member of a generation of girls is lowering her standards and acting poorly is not a good guide as how to act.So now having sex is a lower standard?
Maybe youre just hanging out with women with low standards and little self-respect. With your way of thinking I would not be surprised.So having sex is inconsistent with self-respect?
Thats just BS. First of all, think about it, is sex going to go away, disappear? No, it will still be there if these young women (and men!) are smart enough to wait for marriage. What is lost by waiting until youre in your 20s? It is already known - read the books I listed and youll know it too - that teens and young women are rarely ready for sex or its consequences.Have you ever, ever considered that there might be a downside to being a virgin? Believe it or not, there is data available on this.