Why would a man marry a woman who "hooks-up" with him and who has a long history of hook-ups with other men in the past, with the sexual diseases (some leading to infertility) to go along with them? If he does marry her, why should he be confident that his marriage will last, rather than being a 1-2yr hookup?
I’m not sure “hooking up” means getting together for sex. I believe when most people say they are hooking up what they mean is they are getting together with some buddies to hang out. Maybe it’s different on the east coast.
LLS
“relaxing values”
LOl.... progressive speak. Let’s call it what it really is....total rejection of the moral law.
For some reason the term “Hooking Up” reminds me of dogs.
The woman saith unto him,
Sir, I perceive that thou art a prophet.
From the article:
“...lopsided gender ratios on campus,...”
Although he doesn’t dwell on it, this is the key. Now that colleges are 60/40 men, the guys set the rules, and hooking up works out great for guys.
...another FEMINIST success story. LOL.
Girls and young women hook up because they think that’s how it’s supposed to be. You hook up, and maybe the guy will want to date you. Colossal FAIL. It’s so screwed up.
When I was in college, I was never, ever, not even once, “asked out” - and really, where would a couple go on a small campus in a small town? I chose to just not hook up at all and stayed single for a loooong time. But lots of my female friends, including my best friend who was a virgin until her senior year...fell for the hook-up lie because guys never asked them out. They just gave in and hooked up (slept with) the guy they liked because it was the only way to “get to” the guy they liked. This was in the early 90’s.
I tell my younger sis and her friends repeatedly that hooking up with a guy, then expecting a relationship is the wrong way to go. No one listens! Then they wonder why they never have long-term relationships. I compare it to buying a book from your favorite author, then reading the last chapter before reading it from the beginning.
From the NYT:
“Also, there’s an increased likelihood of sexual assaults because hooking up is often fueled by alcohol.
That’s not good.”
Oh really? You sure that’s not good? The NYT seems to think they have to remind their stupid readers that sexual assualt is ‘not good’, ‘especially’ if it is fueled by alcohol. Good grief....(eye roll)
Why would a woman marry a man who "hooks-up" with her and who has a long history of hook-ups with other women in the past, with the sexual diseases ... to go along with them? If she does marry him, why should she be confident that her marriage will last, rather than being a 1-2yr hookup?
Our 31 year old son was married at age 20 (so was I; so was the bride's dad). His bride was 18 (so was mine; so was the bride's mom).
Our son and the young lady did not begin to see each other at all until all six of us (couple and both sets of parents) had breakfast together one Summer morning and had a good long discussion of principles, rules and procedures. There was neither debate nor argument, we agreed, read the Scriptures and had prayer for God's wisdom and spiritual and moral protection for the couple.
During that year, until their wedding day, the couple was only together on family outings and church outings, or at our house or her family's house for dinner and games, Bible study, prayer, etc.
The couple was never one time off alone together in an automobile or anyplace else. They stayed at all times where family members could see them, even if their conversations could not always be overheard.
At the mid point of that year the couple determined they wanted to marry, and my son approached her dad about a formal engagement. Her dad called me. We both felt they had proved very positive things about themselves. Her dad consented to a formal engagement.
During the last three months of that year, the couple would take walks together in the evenings . . . from the house to the end of the driveway, oh, about 150 yards. Any family member (the bride was one of 8 children) could glance from the house and see the couple.
The couple never so much as held hands until her father, at the marriage altar, placed the bride's hand in the groom's hand and stated that he was giving her to him. Neither had ever been with another. Their first kiss and first embrace was upon our pastor pronouncing them husband and wife.
That was twelve years ago. They are head over heels in love today. They have given us three grandchildren thus far. They serve as missionaries in an Asian country.
This kind of good example is still possible today.
The story of our daughter's courtship is very similar, meaning that there is yet another family with similar convictions and principles. Actually there are thousands and thousands of us.
Well here we have a huge amount of dishonesty in the fourth paragraph.
Girls in today's culture demonstrate that do not want permanent relationships. They want a relationship until they get the kids grown, then they dump their guys and play around. I see this pattern over and over even in my church.
When will girls learn that if you’re givin’ away the milk for free, there’s no need for a guy to buy the cow?
Why are you only condemning the women who “hook up,” why not the men? Why would any young woman want to marry a guy who has a history of “hooking up”? Promiscuity is a sure sign that a person’s character is bad; anyone, male or female, who is sexually promiscuous is going to make a bad spouse because he or she has already shown that he or she is incapable of delaying self-gratification and uses others to that end.
A lady Freeper wrote the following to me, and with her permission, I am posting it here:
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Thanks for posting this article. I have observed this behavior in a nephew of mine that went off to a top ranked university. He explained the behavior to me and I gave him a good “talking too” about promiscuity, don’t know if it did any good.
But I wanted to write to encourage you to keep your kids at home and let them attend college or university while living at home.
We also live in an area w/lots of colleges. Our son did dual credit while in high school, so he graduated high school and received his AA at the same time. He went on scholarship to a local state U and finished his BA at the age of 19, and now is set to graduate from a private U (but still local) with his Master’s...he’ll be 21.
He has lived at home the entire time and chosen to commute. Longest drive has been 35 miles/one way to the state U, private U is 20 miles.
He has wonderful friends and has not been tempted into the “loose” lifestyle by his peers, because his peers are not the other college kids, but his original friends he had from HS (mostly church kids.) Consequently we’ve had no issues with alcohol, drugs, sex, etc.
He dates a lovely girl, and their relationship has been very “proper”...he hangs out at her home w/her family a lot, they date in groups, occasionally just the two of them, but they are very aware of the sexual temptations of spending too much time “alone.”
Anyhoo, I really think that staying out of the “dorm” lifestyle has helped tremendously.
Another nephew just recently went away to college, and I asked him how dorm life was....he told me all the girls were, “sluts” (his choice of words, not mine) and shortly thereafter, my sister found a private home for him to rent a room in, seems his roomates were having sex in the room even w/him present, and he wanted out of the dorm life.
So, to end this missive, LOL, try to keep your kids at home while they attend school. Keep the lines of communication open and you can debunk the liberal teaching, and the loose morals that are on most college campuses today.
Moo!
Young men should take the advice from Eminem and Dr. Dre. Don’t try to stay with those kind of women.
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Why would a man marry a woman who "hooks-up" with him and who has a long history of hook-ups with other men in the past, with the sexual diseases (some leading to infertility) to go along with them?He would not.
I understand why the GUYS do this . . .
Neil Boortz, the radio libertarian, says that he has a secret for young men in H.S. and college to ahem, get some:
Look for girls that smoke. There’s a reduced inhibition and oral fixation related to smoking in girls. Indeed, studies show that girls that smoke are something like twice as likely to put out as those that don’t. Neil cites those stats frequently, I don’t have them on hand.
Sad to be a young lady looking for relational meaning in a world that totally caves to planned spontaneity. . . The sexual revolution screwed women over. Pun intended.
The main reason this happens is the sex ratio at colleges, almost 60% are female. This is just supply and demand, if 60% were male, females would not be so promiscuous.
After major wars, the number of males declines and females become more promiscuous.