A lady Freeper wrote the following to me, and with her permission, I am posting it here:
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Thanks for posting this article. I have observed this behavior in a nephew of mine that went off to a top ranked university. He explained the behavior to me and I gave him a good “talking too” about promiscuity, don’t know if it did any good.
But I wanted to write to encourage you to keep your kids at home and let them attend college or university while living at home.
We also live in an area w/lots of colleges. Our son did dual credit while in high school, so he graduated high school and received his AA at the same time. He went on scholarship to a local state U and finished his BA at the age of 19, and now is set to graduate from a private U (but still local) with his Master’s...he’ll be 21.
He has lived at home the entire time and chosen to commute. Longest drive has been 35 miles/one way to the state U, private U is 20 miles.
He has wonderful friends and has not been tempted into the “loose” lifestyle by his peers, because his peers are not the other college kids, but his original friends he had from HS (mostly church kids.) Consequently we’ve had no issues with alcohol, drugs, sex, etc.
He dates a lovely girl, and their relationship has been very “proper”...he hangs out at her home w/her family a lot, they date in groups, occasionally just the two of them, but they are very aware of the sexual temptations of spending too much time “alone.”
Anyhoo, I really think that staying out of the “dorm” lifestyle has helped tremendously.
Another nephew just recently went away to college, and I asked him how dorm life was....he told me all the girls were, “sluts” (his choice of words, not mine) and shortly thereafter, my sister found a private home for him to rent a room in, seems his roomates were having sex in the room even w/him present, and he wanted out of the dorm life.
So, to end this missive, LOL, try to keep your kids at home while they attend school. Keep the lines of communication open and you can debunk the liberal teaching, and the loose morals that are on most college campuses today.
My parents were so naive about college. I went to Texas A&M in the 80s. Now, there wasn’t a drug problem at A&M like there was at my high school, but it was still wild.
My parents thought I would be okay living in an all girls dorm.
It was legal to drink at 18, and the girls all drank a lot. Boys were not allowed in the dorms after a certain hour, so the girls would just sneak them into the rooms to spend the night. They would have sex in the room while the roommates were there (Thank God that never happened to me). Many girls had abortions.
I was totally unprepared for this lifestyle. My kids will not be unprepared. I will talk (and have talked) to them openly about the temptations and problems at school.