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Why men don’t want to marry...
maybe it has something to do with sex? I mean there have always been loose women, but nowadays it takes no effort at all! Just ‘hook up’ with the nearest skank and you’re done until next time. There is even a buffet of variety!
So unless the seemingly rare man actually wants children and a mate to spend his life with, why not play Xbox all day and make a couple of calls for a booty call at night?
Why give things up if she’s not going to in kind? when working all day is followed by working all evening - with 90% of the benefits thereof going to her?
But we are now in an era which has left morality behind, left etiquette behind, left religion behind, left marriage behind, and is leaving behind the quaint notion of free markets and responsible economic behavior.
What lies ahead for us? I see only darkness.
My God, I think I'm going into a severe depression for the rest of the year.....
Never again would I!
Real men need damsels to rescue and adventures to live. One of the reasons WoW is so popular. Women these days that will allow themselves to be damsels are rare and as far as adventure goes forget it. You cannot have an adventure when your testicles are in the bottom of a woman's purse.
She says she wants to be treated as an equal, yet she doesn’t want you to earn less than she does. She adores gallantry and chivalry except when it’s seen as misogynist condescension: dare you hold a door open in the wrong setting, and that’s not all you’ll be left holding. She wants sensitivity and good grooming and garrulousness, but too much of that — and she’ll never come right out and say when it’s too much, you’ll only find out during the breakup — and you risk looking emasculated rather than “metrosexual.” When she’s out on the town, is it a one-night stand she’s after or is she aiming to “close a deal”? You’ll never know because as often as you go to bed with a whore and wake up with a virgin, the plot develops the other way about, too. (Don’t blame Betty Friedan. Even Byron warned against “the amphibious sort of harlot, / Couleur de rose, who’s neither white nor scarlet.”)
Women... can't live with 'em, can't.....
Get rid of no-fault divorce, and the problem solves itself.
The old joke, "If a man says something in the woods and there is no woman around, is he still wrong?" isn't exactly a joke. Too many women see life that way.
Now, men are wising up and not knuckling under to women, so they are branded "man-child" and insulted.
Keep it up. "Ladies"!
I’m not married because I’m looking after an aging parent and a young sibling, which doesn’t leave much time for socializing. None in fact. (We can afford professionals for these things, but when I was a baby, nobody hired a pro to raise me. Can’t buy love!)
So I’m thinking men also have their choices and just 24 hrs in a day. Besides, there are a lot of bad specimens out there. Some of us don’t want to take time away from loved ones to go out kissing toads.
(”You have to kiss a lot of toads before you find Prince Charming!”)
Who did that other than Sir Walter Raleigh, and that wasn't romance but an attempt to brown nose the boss to get a more profitable government job.
Cultural change has consequences. Why did anyone think the thing that replaced Western Civilization would be any better?
In my experience, the attractive, gregarious, and outgoing young ladies are... well, stuck-up b!tches who are unable to appreciate a decent guy, despite their claims to wanting one.
(ie, they are the sort who demand a perfection from their guy, whilst demanding that he put-up/accept all their unreasonable demands.)
Marriage is just a bad deal for men, and has been for several decades. Beyond religious considerations, the only practical reason to marry, is to provide legitimacy to children. Outside of that, the law and the “culture” is stacked against us. Men aren’t looking for a rival, there are plenty enough of those in the world already.
Because no one ever thinks of questioning the basics of feminism and its effects on society. But on the other hand its good for toymakers who get a real life version of the movie “Big” for their bottom line.
In the begining the sex is often and a lot of fun. After a few weeks, it's a chore and boring with little or no 'newness' to it, and the woman 'forgets' about it. By then, the 'plans', which don't include your input, are made, and you have only two choices. Argue about it, which means you lose, even if you win. Or go along and still lose because you didn't argue about it in the first place.
So why even get yourself into that situation?
Too often the committment is give and take. The man gives up sports, carousing with his buds and things he did when he was single. The woman takes all that and more, making the male more like her girlfriends, and generally emasculating the male.
There are exceptions, of course.
(Enhanced flame suit on)
I am not bragging because I think this is digusting - I am a 48 year old married man (I wear a ring) in the last 4 months I have been chatted up by 4 women for sex. They were all divorced women who can’t find nice men to marry and have basically given up and are trying to find some comfort wherever they can - at the same time this lax attitude to sex is causing the very problems that they are experiencing as many men would see no need to get into a relationship if they can get enough sex and they would not consider these women for a relationship as they would think them to be skanks. It’s very sad to see that women have got the liberation they thought they wanted and yet there is no satisfaction in it for them.
And no they did not get anything out of me but a warning that they are going down the wrong track if they want someone to care for them!
Mel
1. divorce - All the Peter Pan males I know are the product of divorced homes. Everyone learns about marriage from their own parents.
2. Lack of a father's influence in teenage years. which is pretty much the result of number one plus illegitimacy.
3. Men hating mothers - These women disgust me. They laud divorce and tell jokes about men right in front of their own sons. No wonder their sons distrust women.
4. Fathers who won't do right by their children. That means be there and be head of the household. “Father” is an action not a title.
5.SEX is first and foremost, reproduction. Men and women are responsible for who the the other parent of their children is. When you have sex, you are agreeing that the other person can be the mother/father of your children.
6. Because sex causes children and children NEED a mother AND a father, marriage requires commitment.
7.Unfortunately, marriage is no longer about the needs of others but about the desires of the self. Men see marriage as a material transaction and want trophy wives/status symbols (and dismiss bad character in women if they have looks) and women want love and commitment from a sex they have been taught is dangerous and not worthy of trust (and dismiss bad character in men because they think this is normal).
I married at 26 to my best friend. She is still my best friend, thought we were born in different countries and speak different languages.
I can’t see what the problem with everyone else is. You make your life a paradise or a hell.