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Why men don’t want to marry...

maybe it has something to do with sex? I mean there have always been loose women, but nowadays it takes no effort at all! Just ‘hook up’ with the nearest skank and you’re done until next time. There is even a buffet of variety!

So unless the seemingly rare man actually wants children and a mate to spend his life with, why not play Xbox all day and make a couple of calls for a booty call at night?

Call?!?!? They use instant message or 2nd life to hook up — phones are so 90’s /sarc

"maybe it has something to do with sex? "

As in, "Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free."?

And you get societal approval for those acts. A long time ago (in a galaxy far, far away) ambitious men couldn’t get far unless he toed the line on morality, householding and other matters. If a professional man were caught in the arms of a prostitute, in a compromising situation, or sometimes in the throes of divorce, he could wave goodbye to his professional ambitions. A man who wasn’t married, respectable and who with his wife was not contributing to the local community was looked at as weird or dangerous and not properly a candidate for promotion in the company. Between the difficulty of getting “whoopie” and the professional pressure to be married, men usually opted for marriage.

Since then, professional life and private life has been decoupled and, not too often, a family is considered an unwanted anchor dragging on a professional man. The family man resists working long hours or frequent transfers. He is a burden to the benefits offered by the company. In the legal profession, as an example, law firms stopped hiring only those associates it considered worthy of eventual partnership and started hiring more than they needed and gauging the internal competition among the associates to determine partnership offers. Expected billable hours skyrocketed and the firms reaped the benefit from increased profits. Married men couldn’t compete on the same level as single men and maintain their marriages.

So now marriage is little more than an accessory to many younger people, to be used or discarded as needs or desires dictate, which is truly sad because anyone who truly knows the institution of marriage for what it can be knows it takes years of hard work and practice to create that masterpiece that marriage can and should be. (Incidentally, because the article was framed in terms of men, I addressed it as such but the same applies to women.)

Uh...no. A whole generation of men have been told since childhood that they’re brutes, that they’re stupid, that they’re superficial, that all of the world’s ills have been caused by men. They’ve been conditioned to be ashamed of their manhood. In short, they’ve been emasculated.

However, biology overcomes psychology every time. The traditional role of men as provider and protector is now viewed as shameful, sexist and even racist. It should come as no surprise that dominant male behaviors manifest themselves in unforseen and ultimately destructive ways.

Try finding a sub 30 woman worth marrying in an urban setting. Seriously, If I was young and single I wouldn’t probably marry a one of em. They are all way too selfish and self absorbed.

I’m sure there are some that aren’t, but in a metropolitan area they are few and far between.

That, and if men do get married, there is a 50-50 chance she gets the house, the kids, and half his paycheck. At least if he makes a kid illegitimately, he keeps his home and proportionally more money - and less likely to get hit with domestic abuse charges by an ex-wife who sees it as a means to get more money and sole custody.
Maybe the marriage / legal system is so set against men that men choose not to marry, as their only protection.

So unless the seemingly rare man actually wants children and a mate to spend his life with, why not play Xbox all day and make a couple of calls for a booty call at night?

I don't think this is as big of a cause as is commonly believed.

I have no interest in a 'booty call'. You can sleep with some loose skank, but it'll leave you feeling hollow, and emotionally detached. It means nothing, and when the skank leaves, you're alone again. Also, booty calls aren't as maintenance free as is suggested. STDs and pregnancy are all possible outcomes.

Nevertheless, with each passing day, I'm getting more and more soured on marriage. Chiefly, the average American female is getting to where she's quite a poisonous creature. And the few good ones can't easily be told apart from the many bad ones. On top of all that, I'm not much to look at myself, so I guess it was somewhat inevitable.

I would like to find a woman, marry, have children. I just don't see it happening in the current social atmosphere. Better to be alone than make a poor choice of spouse.

“Why men don’t want to marry...

maybe it has something to do with sex? I mean there have always been loose women, but nowadays it takes no effort at all! Just ‘hook up’ with the nearest skank and you’re done until next time. There is even a buffet of variety!

So unless the seemingly rare man actually wants children and a mate to spend his life with, why not play Xbox all day and make a couple of calls for a booty call at night?”

And as I read this I wonder if anyone these days is worried about STDs?
Condoms don’t take care of everything afterall?

As my great-grandma always used to say..”think of the germs!”

I think that’s basically it. Even if a man has more mature diversions than video games, it’s relatively easy for a man with his act together to get sex with attractive women without being held to any serious standards or consequences, and without having to hold up their end of a mature relationship.

Frankly, it’s easy for a man even if he doesn’t have his act together.