Posted on 09/05/2008 9:56:29 PM PDT by Lorianne
I called my husband hours before the Vice Presidential Nominee Sarah Palin was to speak before the Republican convention. I asked him how many kids she had. Five, he said without missing a beat. How many does McCain have? No clue, he said. Romney? He caught on quick (he's used to these pop-quiz phone calls).
He said, well, wait, Palin's been in the news, blah blah, and I said, save your breath. I had no clue either just how many kids John McCain had, and I had absolutely no excuse: I had written TV news for a decade when four of his kids were still quite young.
I probably wrote about the candidate, oh, a hundred times, ranging from tiny mentions to longer stories. And why didn't I know how many kids he has? Because, of course, he is a man. And no one asks those questions of a man.
If you are wondering, he has a total of seven kids, and the four youngest were born during his early days in the Senate. How did he ever manage to "do it all"?
Consider this my open apology to the Alaska Governor for reacting like a Victorian prig on word of her selection as McCain's running mate. Truly, my first thought was "doesn't she have a baby? And one with Down's Syndrome?" Then I thought, "wait, she has four other kids TOO?"
After that came the next wave of pernicious speculating, after it was revealed that her teenaged daughter is pregnant. "Isn't she going to have to clean up that mess too?"
Now, granted, I do have one mitigating factor for this incredibly sexist line of interrogation for the VP nominee. Palin has aggressively billed herself as a mom, and so thinking of her in that role is inevitable.
But that is no excuse. Questions about who's doing drop-off and pick-up, who is changing the diapers, who is in charge of the kids are ones that never enter my mind with a male politician. I call myself a feminist or something like it, but who am I kidding?
think I would have been less inclined to internally grill Palin before I had kids. Now that I'm a parent, my sexist attitudes spring not just from preconceived notions, but from the reality that I see day in, day out.
It's not just some ill-founded impression we all have about women and their double burden of home-life responsibility. It is the reality. The women on average are quite literally cleaning up the messes, even if they are working just as much as the man.
And I am complicit in this inequity all the time, because I enable the fathers. As a room parent at my son's school last year, did I demand the fathers' email addresses along with the mothers'? Nope. When I recently wanted to set up a play-date with my son's friend, did I get in touch with Dad, even though Mom works just as hard, if not harder? Nope. If some child has his shirt on inside out, or has grimy fingernails, do I ever secretly tsk tsk Dad? Nope.
And who do I blame in my own home if clothes remain unwashed, or toddler teeth unbrushed? I blame myself, of course, even when my highly-evolved husband insists that he dropped the ball too.
So I congratulate Governor Palin, and the fact that as a working mom she didn't tsk tsk herself out of her own ambitions. She doesn't need another finger wagging in her face. And from now on, this finger-wagger will be sitting on her hands.
Linda Keenan is a contributing writer at Burbia. Linda worked 7 years as a head writer/senior producer for various programs on CNN. Before that she worked as a writer/producer for Bloomberg TV. She now writes satire, primarily about parenting culture, at Thoroughly Modern Mommy ...
Yet, I have read of some conservatives (even Freepers) who would prefer women didn't vote.
My wife is 46 and has done everything this article talks about, rarely and I do mean rarely complains, raised 4 sons, put up with me. Id say this “woman” hit the nail on the head.
Excellent analysis! I hadn't been down this thought path before and believe you are correct.
Hillary's position is kinda like being between a rock & a hard place -- So she will probable Not actively support BHO.
Politics can be so interesting!
Yes, there are women in that age range who are capable. I’m talking about women in the 25-35 age range. The pretense of competence with a reality of SHOCKING (picture living in a house for 3 years and not knowing where light switches are...) incompetence is something I just can’t seem to shake.
Her listeners are screaming that Governor Palin be on the show. Oprah announced a long time ago that she would not have any candidate on her show except Obama. So Oprah is in a huge quandary. If she doesn't have her on, she will be call a hypocrite for not supporting a woman. If she does opt have her on, then Obama and the Dems are going to be throwing fits about going back on her promise to him. Obama and his followers will blame Oprah for his loss, if she has Palin on the show.
This is FUN, isn’t it ??
Now I wonder if she is going to pony up and vote for the McCain/Palin ticket.
“When liberals start acting like they’re opposed to pre-marital sex and mothers having careers, you know McCain’s vice presidential choice has knocked them back on their heels.” - Ann Coulter
I have it on first hand information that Palin has put the fear of a woman scorned into Smugs and Plugs campaign.
Also look for Plugs to find himself under the bus if the polls start to deteriorate.
Some of the Obama advisor's are already readying female names in case they need to toss a long Hail Mary.
BANG!
Brilliant insight there, GBC.
I've got to find the thread again, but I'm sure I read something about Obama hinting that his camp would be asking Hillary to stump on the campaign trail for them. I think I read that this may be how she'll get Obama's campaign to help her with her campaign debt.
Egads - that's nearly prostitution. Geeez, how much more humiliation can one egomaniac take?
If Hillary does take to the road on a Begging For Obama Tour, any semblance of a political career she may have had will be history. She'll be seen as having been pimped by Bill, and then Obama. Some are already seeing it that way.
I don't think any woman in American politics has ever been betrayed as badly, or humiliated in such a public manner in our history.
This is TO GOOD to watch the Libs go bonkers.....
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