Posted on 01/25/2008 9:44:11 AM PST by nickcarraway
She knows she's risking a reduced standard of living should he leave her, a risk she is quite willing to make for the sake of the tribe.
I didn’t say its enough for a satisfying long term relationship ... if your married to someone that’s good in the sack, but otherwise insufferable — you’re in for a rough life (though not as rough as someone who’s married to an insufferable person that’s lousy in the sack).
But — working your way through the Kama Sutra is nonetheless a worthwhile endeavor.
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Public blank check ping!
Spontaneity takes a backseat when kids come along. Our little darlings seem to always need our attention at the most inopportune times, even though only moments before they were well occupied! Just when you think you have a few stolen moments...
Relationships evolve...needs evolve...you have to roll with it. Congrats on almost 22 years!
Well put. She talks like she's the first but in our good ole USA women (not ladies) have been publishing books about this for a few years already.
Caitlin Flanagan writes about this in an article from a couple of years ago in Atlantic Monthly. She cites feminists who are out to embarrass their husbands like the author above. But she calls them on it and describes it accurately -- that sexual politics has become totally one-sided, favoring the woman, and that a woman out of love should get back into bed with her husband. The article is called "The Wifely Duty" but that is more tongue-in-cheek. Caitlin has published a book, and was interviewed by Stephen Colbert on his show within the last year or so. The interview is hilarious.
For those men who lament about the bedplay (or lack thereof) in their marriages, suggest you find the article and give it to your wife, along with Dr Laura's book on the "Care and Feeding of Husbands." It turned around my marriage a few years ago.
I know someone who has been going through this and it's changed my view on things. Because her husband is a good guy and everyone tells her this, but as they have gotten older they have different viewpoints on everything. She thought she had a low libido and blamed herself for it. Should she continue this way for next forty or fifty years, becoming increasingly more miserable and probably making him miserable in the end? Or should they both have a chance to find someone more compatible? It's unfair to both of them in the long run.
That's why I said, "It’s a malady that commonly strikes boring people."
Hillary is just like this woman only she is staying in the relationship not for Chelsea, but for her political ambitions. Wonder what happens to Bill if she loses??
There is something fundamentally "broken" with the above gals scenario.
She outlines her sexual history. Her issues aren't centered on her husband...
Erm,
Again, it’s a two way street....A man can say ‘she’s a fat pig’ and wifey can say ‘he’s a two second rocket with a 3 inch fuse’. I actually know of a case like this...where both partners had physical, erm, issues.
You have to both care about each other enough to fix what’s wrong. And yes, sex should be special, but it also should be approached with a ‘I won’t settle for blah’ attitude, which sometimes puts it into the more pragmatic ‘find what crisps your bacon’ category.
As for anticipation= mindblowing sex....erm, not always for a woman.
See post 105. That described our household until a few years ago. Now it’s much better.
truly a tough call...
It is my observation that L. Neil Smith is wrong about many things ... this article provides a contrary view. The author seems to “believe in sex” everywhere except marriage.
Sounds like an old joke. How do you cure a British nymphomaniac? Marry her.
You keep that up and I AM going to have to ping the Evil Women. ;)
The very fact that she would even publicly embarrass her husband like this leads me to suspect that she’s got more than a little blame to bear for his lack of interest in her. Yeah, a woman like her would really make a man feel like a “conquering hero” in the bedroom.
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