No one can know how much the man was in control of his faculties.
As much as I dislike Sandy, I think it’s a mature and rational reaction on her part.
Likely that he’s been a completely different person to her and toward her for a while now, which is why he’s in the retirement home.
Sandy is dealing with this in a very dignified manner.
I agree. The very fact that they decided to put him in an assisted-living facility (esp given that I’m sure they have the means and wealth to take care of him at home). means that he has changed so much they can no longer recognize him or he can recognize them. It’s really awful.
That's probably so. We finally put Mama in a nursing home that cared for Alzheimer's patients about 4 years into her illness. She had refused, from the beginning, to live with any of her 8 kids, so we hired a friend of my older sister's to come and live with her, and we took turns staying with her on the weekends to give Mary a couple of days off each week. This allowed Mama to stay in her home as long as possible, but when her physical needs became more than Mary could handle alone, we put her in the home. By that point, she didn't really care where she was, she just knew it wasn't home, though even when she WAS home, it wasn't home to her, either. She was a totally different person to us, even though she did remember each of our names. She was kinda fuzzy on the grandkids and great grands, though. She died in the summer of 2004, 6 years into the Alzheimer's and we were relieved more than anything else, and thankful that God took her Home before she got any worse, mentally.